Hello people I am coming to you again and I hope this time we get a better response. The topic of today is “Trust”. What is the meaning of trust, or better what is your meaning of trust. In Webster it basically says” To believe that one will do what he or she said that they would do”. Does trust mean that there is no room for error or do you have an error limit. Why is it so easy to lose trust when you come under someone’s expectations of you. And is there a formula to regaining trust when you have lost it? Please post comments below.
Thanks, LL
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It is sometimes weird to me the way that people do the trust thing. In the beginning of a relationship trust is so easy to give or to get because you don’t really know the person and you have to give them a chance. I don’t totally agree with this but we won’t get into that right now. Trust to me is believing in the person that you are in a relationship with, the biggest part of trust that a lot of us have to learn is just because you give someone your trust doesn’t me that they have to fall under every category that you have for them and meet all of your expectations. You have to realize that people are not perfect and we need to allow room for mistakes and when they do make mistakes don’t nail them to the cross. If God allows us to make mistakes ask for forgiveness and move on and try to do better who are we to hold something over another person’s head until we feel that they have gotten back in our good graces. Trust can break any type of relationship and if it’s your goal and purpose to try to be like God or walk in his path you and I must learn to forgive and pray for the person who has lost our trust. We can’t continue to prejudge and assume that they will do the same as they did the last time because God can change people and situations in the blink of an eye. So don’t be so quick to judge your neighbor because the same man or women you saw yesterday may not be the same today and they could be holding the key the door that you have been waiting to be open, and if you treat them the way you have been you could very well miss out on your blessing. Remember God works through people and you will never know who he will use to get your blessing to you or what you will have to go through to get it. The same person that hurt you could very well be the same person to bless you beyond measure. Let me stop I’m starting to preach.
ReplyDeleteI’m out, LL.
Ya know, I've learned trust is earned. It doesn't mean one has to be perfect. It does require me to be vulnerable and that the person I'm not trusting not take that vulnerability for granted.
ReplyDeleteTrust for me isn't lost from one event, but a series of events. From being lied to time after time. It's difficult to regain that. I agree that the Lord allows for our mistakes and forgives us, but he also demands more from us. We must "bear fruit in keeping with repentance"....the following is from my blog
"Sometimes, I just don’t wanna hear people’s apologies. I don’t want you to tell me you’re sorry when this is the fifth time you’ve apologized to me about the same thing. At this point your apology doesn’t mean much anymore and trust has been damaged. I would much rather you just stop doing what you’re apologizing to me about. I can’t judge if your apology is sincere or not because I don’t know how you feel when you’re offering your apologies, but I’d much rather see the change".
I believe trust is easily given because you can, as your definition explained, believe that someone will do as they stated. The problem is, the definition states you BELIEVE (which means this is not a fact, so it is subject to change)and that someone will do WHAT HE OR SHE SAID (most of the time the person never said he'll be faithful, never said he'd marry you, never said he wouldn't cheat, but we get mad as if those "promises" were stated when they were really assumed). The formula for receiving and regainig trust is doing what the definition implies which is to do EXACTLY what you say you will and be honest when you can't.
ReplyDeleteTrust is something people earn from one another over a period of time. I think it depends on the act in question as to whether or not the level of trust can be saved with people. I do agree not to totally take trust away from one wrongful act committed. However, you may have to work harder to regain the person's trust depending on what you are being accused.
ReplyDeleteI do think if it is a repeated act, it muust be determined if this person is worthy of your trust. A mistake once yes, numerous times, it is not a mistake but considered intentional.
The formula for regaining trust would be asking God to guide you to inner peace with the situation and being open to trying to rebuild the portion of the relationship that need repairing.