"Eye Candy"

What’s up people I had a conversation with a friend of mine about eye candy. What is eye candy. Well in this sense I mean a very attractive woman or man. Every day in most cases if you are in the corporate world or you have a job dealing with people face to face you will be presented with eye candy. The thing is how do you handle the eye candy, do you just leave it at that or do you try to or attempt to taste the candy . I’ve learned from experience that there is some eye candy that is just waiting to have their wrapper open or just a hint that your interested. Some married and some single and ready to mingle. But the question I pose is how do you handle that. Let me paint a picture. Your at work you see this man or woman every day, they look good smell good dress nice and very attractive. You speak and have small talk nothing to in depth, but you can feel the vibe and they can to but neither of you say anything. Do you leave it as eye candy or do you get the candy?

" Am I Over Qualified"

Hey good people I went to a wedding this weekend with my wife and some of her friends. In the process I had a conversation with a young lady and she was asking me why couldn’t she get a man not even a husband just a good man. She is 28 years old very educated and she makes about 6 figures, she has her own house and car very well kept (Independent) but humble. She isn’t the type of woman who thinks she doesn’t need a man, she wants a man to take control of her relationship and she wants to submit as a wife to a man well deserving of her. Her complaint is that every dude that she meets is either looking for a woman to take care of him or he is intimidated by her job position and her living style. She told me that all she wanted was a man who could take care of himself and be willing to build a life with her, she said that he doesn’t have to make more than her or even be in the same occupation. She also stated that she feels that her being an attractive women as well is part of the problem. She wants to know what is it that she’s not doing and why can’t she attract a man with some substance.

"Best Kept Secret"

What’s up people I got an email from a follower earlier this week. She met this guy at a function about 6mnths ago. He was there with some of his boys and some co-workers. They had seen each other out on other occasions and never took it any further. Well at this party she asked the host who he was and what was his status and he asked the host the same. Well the host was wanting to hook up with the dude herself and didn’t really give neither of them to much info about the other. Well they ended up hooking up any way. Now the deal is the dude is married and the girl knows it, she has a roommate and the roommate has been asking who is the dude coming over in the middle of the night beaten the brakes off her, and she knows is good because she has never heard her that loud before. She wants to tell her how good he is and who he is but she is afraid that it might get out that he’s married and it could mess up her good thing and his marriage. What should she do? Just keep a open mind here.

"Man Against Machine"

I got an email from a follower over the weekend. His question was, “ How do I compete with a machine”? His problem is with his wife and her silver bullet. They have sex and in his opinion it’s good. He gets a pretty good reaction from her when he is handling his business in the bedroom. Well the issue is that when she uses this toy she tends to lose her mind and he’s just laying there not knowing what to do. He was like I’m not sure if I’m taking this the wrong way or what. What should I do. The question I pose is, can sex toys help or hinder a sexual relationship.

"A Matter Of Life And Death"

I was listening to the Steve Harvey show this morning and it was very disturbing. This young lady wrote in asking for advice on what to do about her situation with her boy who is abusing her. She is a 24 AKA and just graduated from college with a BS in biology. She said that her boyfriend is jealous of her success and takes it out in the form of beating her, breaking her arm and cutting her hair. She tells his mom about what’s going on and how she wants to leave, and his mom tells him what they talked about and tells her to just deal with it because she knows how he is. She has no family and has nowhere else to go. She was offered a job in Texas and he doesn’t want her to go and she is afraid of what might happen if she does. WOW! What the heck is this world coming to when we allow women to continue to be treated this way and other people know about it? What is it going to take for her to leave and why has she stayed so long.

"You Think That's Fine"

Good day folks. I had a conversation with some people over the weekend about that’s the definition of a man’s fine and cute and a woman’s definition. The question was asked can a man have sex with a woman that he is not attracted to. Also will a man date or marry a woman that he doesn’t find physically attractive or pleasing to the eye. So help me out people, what do you all think.

"Is It My Job"

In our day to day lives we deal with different people and situations. I believe that every day you are able to wake up and perform as good or better that the day before is a blessing. Some people look at life as a living hell and others look at it as a wonderful thing. I was talking to my friend on the other day about being a blessing to others through your trials and tribulations. In life everyone has his/her own cup of pain that they will have to drink. Now who’s to say that the cup of pain that you had to drink was only for you? It may have been for you and for someone that you have or had no idea that you would meet. But what if you are to proud to be a blessing to the next person? What I mean is, what if you have dealt with a certain situation in your life and you see someone dealing with the same issue and you know a way that they can avoid a lot of pain and heartache and money. But you are so stuck on keeping your image and wanting people to THINK that you have it all together, and you just don’t give them wise or Godly counsel. In my opinion I don’t feel this is right. Why would you let a human being be they Christian or not go down a path that would lead them to fall short in their life journey? So I’m asking is your image and what people think of you more important than helping someone make a better decision. Do you not want to be a blessing to another person if so why or why not?