"Challenges In Black Dating"

What’s up people? As you all know I am reading Hill Harper’s new book “The Conversation”. I was reading a part last night about the challenges that black women and me have dating each other. It was pretty interesting the types of things that were said and some of the reasons. I have my own opinions and I will share them her shortly. So tell me what are your challenges or what have been some of your challenges and why do you feel that way.

"Trust"

Hello people I am coming to you again and I hope this time we get a better response. The topic of today is “Trust”. What is the meaning of trust, or better what is your meaning of trust. In Webster it basically says” To believe that one will do what he or she said that they would do”. Does trust mean that there is no room for error or do you have an error limit. Why is it so easy to lose trust when you come under someone’s expectations of you. And is there a formula to regaining trust when you have lost it? Please post comments below.

Thanks, LL

What's The Secret"

What’s up my people it is time to get back at it, I decided to take a break for a month and also give you all a break. I have a lot of emails and blog request so we will be busy for a while. I have decided to make the blogs a little more meaningful and helpful to some of the followers. With that being said.

I have been reading Hill Harper’s new book The Conversation “ How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships”. When I first heard him talking about it he was on the Steve Harvey show, he spoke about different reasons and thoughts why he felt the African American family wasn’t as strong as it was and could be. My question to you and myself is what is the problem why is the divorce rate among Black or African American’s higher than those of other races. Why do some black women say that all black men are players? Why do some black men say that black women are gold diggers? It’s a lot of why’s and no answers to the questions. Let’s help each other out and see what could be some of the problems and see if we can offer advice to help someone else. So give me your take on why and what’s the Big Secret that we as Black’s don’t know about.

"Eye Candy"

What’s up people I had a conversation with a friend of mine about eye candy. What is eye candy. Well in this sense I mean a very attractive woman or man. Every day in most cases if you are in the corporate world or you have a job dealing with people face to face you will be presented with eye candy. The thing is how do you handle the eye candy, do you just leave it at that or do you try to or attempt to taste the candy . I’ve learned from experience that there is some eye candy that is just waiting to have their wrapper open or just a hint that your interested. Some married and some single and ready to mingle. But the question I pose is how do you handle that. Let me paint a picture. Your at work you see this man or woman every day, they look good smell good dress nice and very attractive. You speak and have small talk nothing to in depth, but you can feel the vibe and they can to but neither of you say anything. Do you leave it as eye candy or do you get the candy?

" Am I Over Qualified"

Hey good people I went to a wedding this weekend with my wife and some of her friends. In the process I had a conversation with a young lady and she was asking me why couldn’t she get a man not even a husband just a good man. She is 28 years old very educated and she makes about 6 figures, she has her own house and car very well kept (Independent) but humble. She isn’t the type of woman who thinks she doesn’t need a man, she wants a man to take control of her relationship and she wants to submit as a wife to a man well deserving of her. Her complaint is that every dude that she meets is either looking for a woman to take care of him or he is intimidated by her job position and her living style. She told me that all she wanted was a man who could take care of himself and be willing to build a life with her, she said that he doesn’t have to make more than her or even be in the same occupation. She also stated that she feels that her being an attractive women as well is part of the problem. She wants to know what is it that she’s not doing and why can’t she attract a man with some substance.

"Best Kept Secret"

What’s up people I got an email from a follower earlier this week. She met this guy at a function about 6mnths ago. He was there with some of his boys and some co-workers. They had seen each other out on other occasions and never took it any further. Well at this party she asked the host who he was and what was his status and he asked the host the same. Well the host was wanting to hook up with the dude herself and didn’t really give neither of them to much info about the other. Well they ended up hooking up any way. Now the deal is the dude is married and the girl knows it, she has a roommate and the roommate has been asking who is the dude coming over in the middle of the night beaten the brakes off her, and she knows is good because she has never heard her that loud before. She wants to tell her how good he is and who he is but she is afraid that it might get out that he’s married and it could mess up her good thing and his marriage. What should she do? Just keep a open mind here.

"Man Against Machine"

I got an email from a follower over the weekend. His question was, “ How do I compete with a machine”? His problem is with his wife and her silver bullet. They have sex and in his opinion it’s good. He gets a pretty good reaction from her when he is handling his business in the bedroom. Well the issue is that when she uses this toy she tends to lose her mind and he’s just laying there not knowing what to do. He was like I’m not sure if I’m taking this the wrong way or what. What should I do. The question I pose is, can sex toys help or hinder a sexual relationship.

"A Matter Of Life And Death"

I was listening to the Steve Harvey show this morning and it was very disturbing. This young lady wrote in asking for advice on what to do about her situation with her boy who is abusing her. She is a 24 AKA and just graduated from college with a BS in biology. She said that her boyfriend is jealous of her success and takes it out in the form of beating her, breaking her arm and cutting her hair. She tells his mom about what’s going on and how she wants to leave, and his mom tells him what they talked about and tells her to just deal with it because she knows how he is. She has no family and has nowhere else to go. She was offered a job in Texas and he doesn’t want her to go and she is afraid of what might happen if she does. WOW! What the heck is this world coming to when we allow women to continue to be treated this way and other people know about it? What is it going to take for her to leave and why has she stayed so long.

"You Think That's Fine"

Good day folks. I had a conversation with some people over the weekend about that’s the definition of a man’s fine and cute and a woman’s definition. The question was asked can a man have sex with a woman that he is not attracted to. Also will a man date or marry a woman that he doesn’t find physically attractive or pleasing to the eye. So help me out people, what do you all think.

"Is It My Job"

In our day to day lives we deal with different people and situations. I believe that every day you are able to wake up and perform as good or better that the day before is a blessing. Some people look at life as a living hell and others look at it as a wonderful thing. I was talking to my friend on the other day about being a blessing to others through your trials and tribulations. In life everyone has his/her own cup of pain that they will have to drink. Now who’s to say that the cup of pain that you had to drink was only for you? It may have been for you and for someone that you have or had no idea that you would meet. But what if you are to proud to be a blessing to the next person? What I mean is, what if you have dealt with a certain situation in your life and you see someone dealing with the same issue and you know a way that they can avoid a lot of pain and heartache and money. But you are so stuck on keeping your image and wanting people to THINK that you have it all together, and you just don’t give them wise or Godly counsel. In my opinion I don’t feel this is right. Why would you let a human being be they Christian or not go down a path that would lead them to fall short in their life journey? So I’m asking is your image and what people think of you more important than helping someone make a better decision. Do you not want to be a blessing to another person if so why or why not?

"Long Showers"

Hey people got a pretty serious situation. One of our followers is a single mother of a 15 year son. He is a good kid very active in sports and gives her no problems. Well as of late he has been taking longer showers and she has found some adult movies in his room. She doesn’t know how to approach the situation and when she does, she isn’t really sure what to say. So the question is how should she handle her son in this situation?

"What's the Hold Up"

Hey I was talking with a young lady over the weekend about her boyfriend situation. She asked me a lot of questions about why hasn’t he ever said anything about marriage and when she brings it up or asked him what’s his take on it the subject changes. He doesn’t want to talk about it or they will talk later. They have been together for 2 ½ years and the relationship has been good for the most part, she is just ready for the next step. He is 30 and she is 28 they both have good jobs with stability. He has a kid and she has none. When she asked what’s the problem he tells her that he just wants to make sure he has all his ducks in a row. Meaning he wants to have a house and everything set up for them when they decide to marry. The question is when is it or is it a time line on when marriage should be a topic of discussion between a couple? Do women require men to have certain things set in place before marriage, besides the common trust things.

"Why Do It'

Good day people, I was asked a question by a follower Why do men and women cheat on their spouse’s and is it cheating if your not married. Meaning if your dating or engaged.

"Whats Enough"

Good day people and welcome to all the new followers. In today's world it's almost impossible to find someone man or woman who doesn’t have a kid already. I some cases the father has custody in most cases (over half) the mother has custody. When dealing with this situation you run into who does what and when who should do this or that. Some may say that the mom has the biggest part of the load others see It different. Now some see it best to go through the courts to decide who pays what part. Others think it can be worked out between the parents. Now the question is, who’s to say what the court orders the male or female to pay is enough. So when and what is enough for the parent that does not have custody of the child to pay or do?

" The Biggest Deceivers"

Good day people got a question. We are at work having a conversation about who are the biggest deceivers, men or women. Is it women with their fake accessories nails, hair, eyelashes, make up exc… or is it men with what they really want in a woman, or what is their real intent.

"Is It A Fad Or Is It Me"

What’s up good people I had a conversation with some people about a pretty risky issue. Gays and Lesbians, some say I was born that way, some may say I had such bad luck with the opposite sex and I decided to just see how it was. Can it be that bad!? I mean it’s so many people going that way now it seems to be a fad, it’s even starting in the middle schools with the young kids. I mean can you be born that way or is it a choice? Are men and women really suppose to be lovers of themselves?

"What Is He Really Saying"

Does he really want me or not?

They have been friends since elementary school, since adulthood they have became more than just friends, but with no title. Both kind of them really did not know where this relationship would go and both still talked to other people. They start to develop stronger feelings for each other, but now he gets his ex- girlfriend pregnant and marries her because of it. Even with the marriage they still keep their under cover relationship continues for about 4 years and now he is not with the wife anymore. She thinks that since he is separated from his wife and now seeking a divorce they will be together, since they’ve been together for the last 4 years. Well, now he says that he is not in a position to take care of a wife and that what he wants to be able to do, he keep stressing that he is not really focusing on being with anyone right now, he is even practicing celibacy, and told her that he just wants to be friends. She wants to know, “Does he really want me or not?”

"Re-Cap" --What's A Man To Do

Hey people I got a call from my boy this morning about 5am. He told me that he went to bed last night about 9 and his wife was up doing some things around the house. She came to bed about 12, neither one of them could really sleep tossing and turning and eventually in the process of rolling over they ended up face to face and kissing took place. Well they went ahead and did the business, he said it was okay he really wasn’t into it because of all the drama going on. Well about two hours later he was awakened by her hitting him and calling him another guys name. DAMN! He said he asked her what did she say and she said it again not knowing that she was talking in her sleep. She woke up and he asked her who this guy was and she was like I was dreaming I don’t even know what I said and I don’t even know anyone by that name. O….kay………. Now what’s up? Help my boy before he goes to the crazy house.

"What's The Real Deal"

Hey when you have a situation like this it’s hard to pin point the real deal. A lady in her late 20’s early 30’s works for a law firm that happens to be all males and all white. Now she never really put that much effort in to her appearance, now she was always nice looking but she never put that extra on it to send her over the top. Now she has been working here for about a year and a half now. Well about a month ago she started to dress a little more sexy for work she started to go all out with the appearance and wearing things that she said before was to much for work. Well her husband noticed this and started to pay more attention to what she was wearing and asked what brought about the change. She told him nothing what are you talking about I always dress this way. Well they went to the mall on one Saturday and ran into this guy. He walked up to her and spoke and then turned to the husband and introduced himself as the new lawyer at the firm she was working at. O *&^*. Now he also said that he was the first black male to ever work for this firm and he was glad to have her to help him and they couldn’t have chose a better assistant for him. While all this is going on his wife is standing there looking like somebody just knocked the breath out of her. She usually tells him whenever somebody new starts there and what goes on but he didn’t hear about this guy. The husband didn’t say anything and hasn’t mentioned a word since. Now how should he handle this one? Is it something more to it or is he just going over board?

" I Wonder"

What’s up people I had a quick conversation with some co-workers yesterday. I asked the question to two young ladies. Do women become curious about a man who has a lot of women that he deals with, no ties to either one of them but he is having sex with all of them. Now here’s how it went. Two guys live in an apartment, across the hall lives a single female. Now they have been living there for about 6mnths and this female has witnessed an array of women go in and out of this apartment. She has conversations with these two guys and sometimes jokes about the women coming over so often. Now not knowing but two of her good friends had already become victims of the apartment and had been telling her how good the product was. She made the statement I don’t care and don’t want to know and will never find out. O Really. My question is do women think about how good a guy is when she hears the stories from friends or other women and does that makes them want to try it out?

"What's A Man To Do"

Good day people I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. I wasn’t going to post this but I was asked to by both parties. It has been revised from its original state.

I have a good friend who is in a bad spot in his marriage, they are dealing with the 2nd biggest reason for divorce SEX. They got married a couple of years back and the sex was good for a while then it started to slow down, he wanted it she didn’t, her head was hurting and she was tired. Well he ended up running into one of his old flings, they never had sex before and nothing ever came of the relationship. Well this night when they ran into each other they had a couple of drinks and ended up talking in her car. She started to kiss on him making moves exc… now fyi he hasn’t had sex in about 2mnths because he is scared to asked his wife for the fear of rejection. Well any way they ended up in her apartment and you know what happen next. Well she started texting and calling him to get a seconded round but he wasn’t feeling it, after the first time he felt really bad and didn’t know how to deal with it. Well the wife found out about the whole thing through his cell phone. Now she decided that she wasn’t going to leave and they would just have to work it out. What got him was she stayed and also they started to have sex all the time she was doing things he had been asking for and she never did and he was getting it on the regular. After a while the same old things started happening again, but now it was that she told him that she wasn’t really into him sexually anymore. She didn’t want to have sex and when they did she would tell him “I don’t really feel like it but come on and hurry up” now he is really into the foreplay thing and she isn’t , it’s certain places that she won’t let him kiss or touch. She never comes on to him, and when he comes on to her she tells him she’s not In the mood. Now he asked her what the deal was and why the sex isn’t popping off the way it was. She had no answer. Well when she wants it he’s ready and she likes to go like 3-4 times a night, and when she wants it he better be ready. Huh! Well he’s in a spot now where he doesn’t know how to handle it, he knows cheating is not the way to go, and he really wants to please his wife and he’s lost on how to make it happen. He asked me “ man if she was going to act like this I would have rather her just left and been with someone else why did she stay”. He has tried everything and doesn’t know what to do. Hell I don’t know what to tell him. Help this brother out.

"What Now"

Okay people got some more 4th of July drama. A follower sent me a email and asked me to post this.

I have been dating this guy for about a year and a half now. He lives in Arkansas and I live in Birmingham, we met on a business trip last year in New Jersey. He let me know up front that he was looking for a wife and wanted to settle down at the time he was 28 and I was 26. At about the 9mth stage of our relationship we started to talk about marriage here and there. He started asking what would we do about the distance and all and who would move and jobs exc….. Well me and some friends have been going to the Essence Festival for the last couple of years. Well before I left he asked was I going and I told him yes, he was like cool I’m just going to stay here and chill. It was weird because he kept asking are you sure your going what day your leaving and all. Well we got to LA and got settled, Sat we went out and checked out some acts. Well later that night my company had a met and greet for some employees that worked at the office there. When we get there my girlfriend pointed out this guy and was like “ that looks like Jay your ex-boyfriend” . Yep it was Jay. I asked him what was he doing there and he was like I knew you would be here for the festival and I wanted to see you. I asked how did he know about my jobs met and greet, he tells me he called the office manager and she told him. Well anyway we talked about the past of course I told him I had someone and I was happy. He kept on with the let’s try it again BS. Well they were taking picture’s at the party and they got one of us. Well I get back to Birmingham and to my surprise my man was in bham, he wanted me to ride with him somewhere. We get to this place where they are doing construction on this new home, we walked in and he asked me did I like it, I said yes but why are we here. He didn’t answer and we walk through the rest of the house. Well when we got to the bedroom and on the mantle was a box and a picture. He said to answer your question why are we here, he said this is the home that I was planning on moving into with you if you would have answered the question that I was going to asked you and it was will you marry me. Now I have second thoughts because I saw the pics from your companies met and greet and looks like to me that one of your home girls looks just like your ex-boyfriend Jay. My heart dropped to the floor. Yall I don’t know what to do please help me. I tried to explain to him what happen but he isn’t hearing it.

"Surprise"

Well we all know that the 4th of July is one of the biggest holidays of the year. You have friends and family from all over the country coming in to get that BBQ. It also is a time where a lot of mess goes on in families. A follower sent me this email on the 4th in the middle of the day. She is a 30 year old fashion designer and personal shopper for some big wigs in Atlanta. Well back in high school and college she was dating this guy who was “the guy” to be dating. Well she later found out that he wasn’t all that everyone thought he was. His parents were lawyers and were pretty well off, her dad worked for Ford in Atlanta and her mom worked for Clayton County School system. She has a twin sister and two younger brothers, well she comes home for the 4th from working in DC for a while and guess who’s at the house? Yep the ex-boyfriend from back in the day, who is now a lawyer at his parents firm. Well when she came home she brought her new boyfriend who is an average guy he’s working on his own business and trying to make it. Well when she gets there and see’s him she pulls her mom to the side and asked why he was there, her mom tells her that she thinks they need to work their past problems out and get married. Well the new boyfriend ain’t feeling the whole ex being around, her dad didn’t really speak to him, her mom just said “hi” and what do you do for a living and reminded him of what her daughter does for a living. The whole time they were there the ex was trying to hug on her and flirting and tried to kiss her when she came out of the restroom. After a while the new boyfriend left and went back to DC, yeah got on the plane and went back home. He told her if this is how her parents are going to treat him he wants no part of this family. DAMN! Now she asked me how to handle this. So I need you all to help me out and give her some feedback on how to handle her parents and this ex boyfriend.

"Double Dutch"

I was listening to Mike Baisden yesterday while driving home. His topic of discussion was, can a person be in love with two people or love to people and if your not married why do you lie about dating other people? I was a shocked at the amount of people that called in saying that they were in love with two people, most shocking is that the majority were women. They spoke about how they had two and three men and how they pay her bills and give her money. I mean is it possible to love to people or can you love one and be in love with the other?

"Are You Blind"

My homeboy called me this morning yelling in the phone pissed off with his wife. When he finally calmed down he was telling me about how she seems to think things that he does are just average but when another male does the same thing it’s so sweet. He was like man I don’t see it what the heck am I doing wrong these dudes just do this stuff when they have messed up this is my everyday routine. She doesn’t have to look for me at night she knows my every move. The thing is her friends think I’m the best thing in the world, but why can’t she see what they see. True enough we live together and it’s things about me that they don’t know but that’s only 10% of the real me. Everybody has their faults, but why is it that you have on a consistent bases what your friends get from time to time but it’s nothing to you? What’s the problem? Do you not appreciate me? O boy! Now people do you have it so good that it’s second nature and you have lost appreciation for your blessing? What ‘s up?

"Back Up Plan"

I had a chance to sit down with a good friend of mine over the weekend and we discussed an array of topics. The one that stood out to me the most is, how do you know that your mate didn’t just settle for you . It’s weird but have you ever thought to yourself why he or he or she chose me? He was telling me that sometimes he feels like his mate was just ready to be married she was feeling him and loved him but he sometimes feels that he isn’t that guy that she really had in mind. He was like sometimes I feel kind of foolish because I walk around with my chest out thing I’m all that because I got her, not knowing if I was just a backup plan. I mean she says she’s attracted to me, she says I’m what she always wanted, I’m handsome and all that but how do I know I’m that guy who can make you weak at the sound of my voice or just my presents turns u on. WOW!! It was way deeper than I can put in words but.. How do you know or is there a way to know if your just a backup plan or you’re the only plan and you weren’t just settled for?

'Best Man"

Okay people, why did my cousin call me last night and told me that he was braking off his engagement because he caught his fiancé cheating with his homeboy. He called me about 10:30 last night and we were talking about the Legend (MJ) don’t play. So I’m about to get off the phone and he was like cuz I got to tell you something man and I haven’t told anyone else. Now this chick is a nurse good wholesome girl never gave him any problems and she always made him feel like he was the one and only always act like she wouldn’t do this or that don’t drink you know the ones that claim they are o so good. He was never the type to want to settle down for real for real but she brought it out. He use to tell me man I never been with a chick that made me feel this way. He said for the last 4 months his home boy has been staying with them 2 nights out of the week because he works in city they live in to days out of the week. Well the home boy goes to work before him and his wife then the wife and then him. He had been trying to get his schedule changed at work so he could be home when their kids got out of school, well he did and something told him not to tell his wife. They had a power outage last Monday at his job and they had to leave early, so my boy goes to the house, gets there no one is there. He decides to take a nap and about an hour later he heard the door open and then close. He didn’t move he just stayed there for about 15mins he went down stairs to the kitchen didn’t see anything, went to the den didn’t see anything . He heard a noise in the bathroom, went down the hall and opened the door slowly and saw his fiancé jacked up on the back of the toilet and his homeboy giving her the business. He said it was about 3 to 4 mins before she realized that he was standing there. He said when she opened her eyes she just started crying and his homeboy just started shaking. He said he pushed her in the tube and beat the hell out of his boy. He told me he tried to kill him but the police came, the fiancé ran out of the house to the bus stop and just sat there crying, she ain’t even been back to the house. Now how F%^& up is that? He is hurt bad to people. I don’t even know how to tell him to cope with it. Any suggestions?

"Detour"

Good day people. I have been wondering this for a while now. Why is it that some women wear a ring on their wedding finger and they aren’t married or engaged? I mean isn’t it the hope and dream of a woman to be married one day? If so why would you pretend or use a ring as a “detour”. Check it I hear so many conversations between women about having problems finding a good man and how they want a good faithful man honest and true. Auh how do you expect to find someone or someone to find you and you have a ring on your wedding finger? Wake up that crap isn’t working, well let me take that back it works for the ones you don’t need because they don’t have any respect for the marriage that they think your in anyway so you know he’s not a good candidate. Seriously though think about it, your at walmart a guy sees you he’s checking you out and about to make a move and approach you then he sees the ring and he proceeds to do his shopping thinking man she’s married. But your not it’s a detour for the bad men right, no fool the bad ones still approach you they don’t care they just trying to hit and run. The good ones keep going because that ring is a symbol of marriage. Women miss out on a lot of good men because of this practice, you have to make yourself approachable ladies. Any good man, you know the one you want, he’s not going to approach you with a ring on, not bragging I have had women come up to me from the past asking why I didn’t say anything to them and my reply is “ I saw the sign that said detour so I took it” and the ask what sign? Ladies there is only room for one wedding ring on that little finger if it’s one there already there isn’t room for the man of your dreams to put another one. So why ladies, what’s the point in the “Detour”?

"That's His Job"

When two people meet for the first time and the communications process begins what’s the next step? I mean is it set in stone that the male is the one who has to pay for the first date or is that up to the person who asked? I know this girl who was dating a guy she liked him he liked her they went out on a couple of dates and he paid for them all. Now she made a statement to me one day that she liked him and wanted to do something nice. I said well take him out pay for the date and the whole evening you know show him that you are willing to spend some money on him. She told me okay and took the dude to StarBucks. What! I said why start bucks she was like well you know I not going to be wining and dining no man that’s his job. I was like well it just shows that your not all about what he can do for you. If you show a man that you are willing to help him out or contribute something more that some legs with hinges on them he will more than likely give you more that what you expected. So do you all think that a woman should show some kind of pro-active type of behavior during the dating process besides just looking good? Should she maybe offer to pay or pay, should she maybe cook him a meal or something, what is the woman’s role in the dating game?

"Lawn Boy"

Hey I took my son to the doctor yesterday and I overheard these to women talking about sex and being pleased. They were both married with kids and worked from home. Well one of them is not all that happy with the way that her husband has been performing in the bed room. She said that he isn’t all that lengthy if you know what I mean nor does his key have a tight fit. Well the her cousin told her that she needs to get her a boy toy. Somebody to come by and break her off during the day while her kids are at camp and her husband is at work. This chick said that she has a dude to come by twice a week, he is the lawn and the pool man, no joke I’m dead serious. Now mind you these are to white women, not that it matters but just had to add that in there and yes the boy toy is black. Now I’m wondering if your man ain’t putting it down at the house do yall work on it or how is that handled. Ole girl said that lawn boy comes through and wreck shop and she naps for the rest of the evening. Come on ladies what’s up?

" I Ain"t Got No Help"

What’s up people? Now today we are going where I try not to go, my kid. My daughter came over this weekend as she does just about every weekend. Now me and her mom aren’t together haven’t been in 9 years and I don’t plan on doing so. We met back in college got a baby, she moved to Birmingham and we tried to make it work. She decided that she wanted to move back home for some reason, no everything wasn’t perfect who’s life is? When she moved of course now were dealing with a single parent deal. She’s living in Montgomery and I’m in Birmingham, yeah I was pissed because I wanted to be involved in my child’s life on a daily bases and not be a weekend daddy. I was pissed afterwards didn’t really handle my business as I should have, gave money here and there nothing on a consistent bases. Well of course we broke up I tried to get back with her she didn’t want that wasn’t trying to hear it, mind you I still don’t know why we broke up and it’s 2009, which really doesn’t matter. As I got older the baby was about 3 and I started to send money and do things as I should have and have been since then. I have always done for her and have never went more than two weeks without talking to or seeing her. In 2007 her and her mom moved back to bham, I welcomed that because that meant I could see her more I could spend more time and she could have some help with school activities exc… Now my issue is these two set of rules, her mom allows certain things in her home that I don’t allow in mine. Certain clothes, shoes ear rings, TV shows music activities exc.. she allows and I don’t. When she comes to my house and I see these things I bring it to a head and try and find out what’s going on. Well I had to sit back and think about it, it’s not her fault she only wears what her mom buys and she only does what her mom allows her to. Now first off this is not a baby mama bashing this is just what’s going on she has a open invite to this blog to voice her opinion.” (My name is Nicholas Antonio White and I said it and I ain’t taking it back)” . Now I don’t believe in all these single parent home excuses when you have two educated parents working together to raise a child. If your child’s father who is willing to help you raise your child money wise and time and discipline it’s no excuse why your kid shouldn’t be successful in life. Now when the parents aren’t on the same accord and have the same purpose at hand you have a problem. I'm not one of the daddy’s that just let my kids look at rap videos all day, look at all kinds of movies, look at all these stupid reality TV shows and 95.7jamz bs in the morning. I don’t agree with a ten year old dressing like she’s 18, tube tops wedge heals and all that, it’s so many crazy people in the world and you never know what’s going through their mind. Now we have a serious problem because my daughter thinks that I have a problem with everything she wears, which 75% of the time I do. When she comes to my house I usually have to send my wife to buy her new clothes because you ain’t going with me no where dressed like you 25 and you 10. It’s so much more but I need to stop. Help me. Why is it that you have men in this world who honestly care for their kids and want the best willing to do what it takes to work with the mom but they don’t or aren’t willing to accept the help. As soon as the kid comes up pregnant or in jail it’s the daddy’s fault “O you know her daddy wasn’t around” No her dad tried to help. I mean is the MONEY more important than the LIFE-LESSONS on how to carry yourself as a woman. But then some baby mama’s tell that lie I AINT got no help, O yeah you do it just aint the kind you want. What am I missing? Help me out cause I must be the crazy one.

"Not So Tight"

What’s up people boy is this a good one. My home boy has been dating this chick for about 7mnths now, taking her out to the nice places to eat, concerts, plays movies the whole nine. When they first met she laid down the rules up front no sex until they get to know each other and have some kind of meaning and title. Well time went on and things got better, she decide to start letting him venture to some places where he hadn’t been. Now mind you she told him that it had been about a year and some months since she last had sex. My boy being the stand up guy he is has been holding out trying to be Mr. Goodman and not mess around on the chick. Well the took a trip up to the coast in North Carolina on the way they had good conversation and a little foreplay talk, you know set the mood. He had already told me “man I’m going for the gusto this weekend” well he did. To his surprise after 8mnths or so things weren’t as tight as he thought they should have been, you know the door was wide open. He said that she seemed as if she was trying to make it tight but it wouldn’t work. Well he waited until the next morning and asked when was the last time she had sex she told him it’s been about a year, so he left it at that knowing she was full of it. They made it back to her house he dropped her off and by mistake she left her phone in the car. He called to tell her that he had made it home, while calling he heard her phone ringing in the car. So he goes around picks up the phone and goes in the house to change and take it back to her. While changing she gets a call from a dude, She has some kind of phone that lets you hear the voicemail as the person is leaving it. Yeah old dude told it all” what’s up baby you back in town from your business trip I need to come through so we can finish what we started that P$$$Y was wet as hell hit me when you get this I waiting on you”. DAMN! So he goes over knocks on the door and soon as she opened it up he just pushed play on the voicemail and left. What!!!!!!!!!

"City Limits"

Good day people got a serious but good one today. I got a friend who has a issue that most couples run into when it gets close to the time of picking a mate and getting married. He is a Financial Planner for a local company doing pretty well for himself. His girlfriend is a RN and is doing well also. The issue is, he is looking down the road at potential career opportunities outside of their local area and state. He doesn’t have anything lined up but he’s thinking about what would happen if the chance came along. She is a home town girl use to her surroundings, her church life is good and she’s not wanting to move outside of her area. She is kind of hinting around the marriage deal and the whole woman dreams deal. He put everything out in the open up front to make sure she knows what is goals and intention are. Help my man out, what’s the next step.

" I Want One"

I had a follower email me about his situation. His brother’s wife has a friend that is married to a guy that is not so loving. He has the old school mentality, you know I pay all the bills and as long as you and the kids are taken care of you shouldn't’t have anything to complain about. I go and come as I please and you can’t tell me when to be home or where to go. His brother’s wife tries to reason with her to just hang in there and keep on doing her part. He comes home late and sometimes not at all. When the wife and her husband go out with their kids to eat or do family things she always invites her, well her husband tells her she’s a third wheel and all. Now the issue is the follower said that his brother thinks that his wife’s friend is wanting to be with him, she always gives him this look and says how much of a good man he is exc…. He told his brother he feels kind of un easy around her, now she hasn’t come on to him in anyway but he feels like if the opportunity came along she might take it. Not that she’s that type of woman it’s just she wants that type of life, to be able to spend time with her husband and kids and do family stuff. Now how should he handle this with his wife, does he tell her or just let it die out?

"I B M"

Hey good people I had some friends and family over to the house this weekend and we had conversations about relationships and what men and women want in their mate. The question came up from one of the guys to one of the ladies” What is your IBM (Ideal Black Man)? That question in itself start a long conversation. I mean everyone has that one perfect looking person they want body type height, weight, color and all that, but what if that’s not what you need. I mean what if what you want isn’t what you need to help you become what you were designed to be. When looking for a mate you need someone one can help complete your life’s goals and dreams. If you just search for someone that you want they may not have what you NEED and there for your purpose will not be served . So with that being said. Do you all think or are you willing to change your male or female preference if it’s not what you want or need. If he or she has to have a degree or a certain type of job, no kids, never been married exc………………

"Do Or Die"

Good day people. I have a follower who’s in a hard spot. She has been dating this guy for about 7mths now he’s pretty well established in his career and his life style. He does a lot with his family and other business venture and is also set in his ways so to speak. In the past she has tried to give him space and time to see where they stand. She believes he’s a good dude and could be a good husband, what’s she’s not sure of is why he’s not making her a priority. He calls maybe once a day she may see him 1 or 2 times out of the week. Now this has been going on for a couple of months she’s feeling him wanting to be with him but not sure if she should stay or move on. He’s a good guy but she’s not sure if she is priority in his life, he is about 7-8 years older than her and never been married and has no kids. It looks right feels right. Is it? She’s there when she needs to be she just doesn’t get the same vibe from him.

"What's A Girl To Do"

I’ve been kicking it with this guy since 2006 when we first met we were extremely young, in college, and very immature. In college things were GREAT, if I wasn’t road tripping to Auburn he was in Birmingham. Life was great, however in the midst of me being young and dumb and not realizing or valuing what I had I started messing around with this guy in the same college town where my guy was. I didn’t think they could ever find out they lived miles apart they were in two different fraternities and I thought I had it made. Until one day my dude called and told me they were into it with the opposite Fraternity. Okay they’re beefing he will really never find out, is the only thing running through my mind at the time. Now let’s make this very clear I made it very clear that I was involved and I had no intentions on ever getting with the other guy. However one day the feud escalated and my secret was revealed. I drove to Auburn one night and my dude wasn’t aware that I was in town and that one trip ruined everything for me. It took me a year and a half to salvage anything that between me and this dude. We recently about a year ago started back conversing and hanging out, I’ve done everything from sending him Birthday gifts to expressing to him how much I love him and how I never meant to hurt him ever. Now that college is over and we are both completely grown I think we should both just GET OVER it, we were young and even though he didn’t get caught but he did his thing as well (what Kappa Man doesn’t, any man for that matter). The bad thing about it is I have so many connections to this man, his mom is my personal make-up consultant, she’s also my church member, and to top it off I’m so connected to his mother that its hard to avoid seeing this man. This is very difficult because I think this man should be my husband…WHAT!!! How can you say this when you cheated but the spiritual connection we share now and even then is amazing we’re always praying and seeking God together it’s just a blessing to be in presence. So my question is Should I stop fighting for this man and move on with life, or should I be persistent? He has given me no indication that he’s not interested, he’s currently not seeing anyone… So what do I do????

"Help A Brotha Out"

What’s up people? On the way to work this morning I was listening to the Steve Harvey Show. The strawberry letter was about this lady who has been with this guy for 6years, he can’t hold a job down. In fact he has lost two while they have been together, his house and a car. He is trying to get his business off the ground in the process. Now she has a PHD and very well established in her home and life. She has to give him money to pay his bills as well as let him use her car. She got a big bonus check from her job and he asked if he could use some of the money to buy her an engagement ring. What!! Yeah that’s what I said. So when do you draw the line when it comes to helping your boyfriend or girlfriend?

"Just Come On"

What’s up people I had a conversation with a male and a female this weekend about foreplay. I mean is it that important or is it over rated? First I talked to a guy and I asked what is your stand of foreplay. “Well it’s whatever she wants I mean I don’t have to have it or do it just depends on what she wants”. I asked had he ever been called out by a female on his willingness not to do so without being coached. He told me “ Yeah a couple of times but you know they were like slow down take your time we have all night, but I’m like come baby let me do my thing”. I asked him if the one’s that called him out about it were some of the ones who returned for round two. “Nope”. OOOOOOOOOO…… Okay. Well I went on to ask a female the same series of questions and she said that it was a must. “Why” I asked. She said that her body had to be relaxed and at the right temp for her to enjoy and react. She also said that if she deals with a man and he doesn’t start with foreplay he STOPS right then. “Anybody can stick a pole in a whole, can you stimulate me without that”? She said that she has come in contact with some guys who wanted to do the foreplay and didn’t know what to do but she coached them, she also said they were younger. The male I talked to also told me that once he started to do the foreplay he said some of the chicks were like “Just Come On”, what do I do now? So my question is. Is foreplay that important and when is it need and not need?

"This Is My Confession"

Okay here’s the situation………………………………..I’ve been married for about 5yrs now and I know that the preacher said for better or for worse, but lately I’ve only been experiencing the worst of my husband. I’m not sure on where it went wrong, but getting him to cooperate with working towards maintaining this marriage is like getting a child to eat their vegetables. Things have gotten physical, there has been arguing on a daily basis....I'm a stranger in my own home. With this being said I’m faced with a terrible dilemma. Now I’ve stated that TURMOIL has entered my home bringing DRAMA as a houseguest and for this reason I’ve recently met someone new. I know, I know, I made a mistake, but what is a woman to do when she’s not taken care of at home. I don’t mean the wining and dining, but truly being loved, protected, and appreciated by my husband who leaves in the middle of the night and is consistently fronting me about other guys. So in this situation I guess I took the advice of Keyshia Cole ( I might as well cheat, as much as you’ve accused me of cheating). Now CHAOS has made itself as visitor in my home because I’m expecting……………………………………..I know what you’re thinking bring on Maury Povich, but it really wasn’t like that. There is a huge possibility that this baby belongs to my husband, and a slim possibility of it belonging to the new guy. I told my husband about the pregnancy just because this was something we had previously planned and talked about, but now I’m not sure I did the right thing. I really would like to be enjoying this special moment, but the foolishness has cascaded the joy I’m supposed to be feeling. Again I know my behavior may not be morally correct, but I’m the first to admit I’m human and we make mistakes but I faced with wanting to tell my husband about the possibility but my gut is saying to find out when the day gets here. I've also thought about not going through with the pregnancy at all because either way seems like a loose-loose situation. What’s a girl to do?

"Garbage Or Gold"

Top of the morning to you all. This is a good one as always. One of my boy’s called me on the other day and said he needed to talk. We met up and he started to tell me about one of his clients and his wife. First when he was younger his dad called him all types of names and told him he wouldn’t amount to much. Well anyway he struggles with self esteem problems. He met his wife and she understood his problem and started to stroke his ego and help build his confidence. Well as time went on the building process stopped and she would just not pay his problem any attention. Well he mentioned it to her and she said she would try to work on it, but of course it never happened. Well he is a investment banker for a large firm in Florida. He told me he has a client that has been calling him and taking him out to lunch thanking him for the return on her investment. He said she compliments him on his cologne, his attire as well as the way he handles business. She has been his client for about six months now. She had a party at her home and invited him and his wife. They went and the two ladies met. He said she complimented him so much in front of his wife that it made him feel kind of weird. Well the next morning she called him and ask to meet him at his office, when they met she told him that she was attracted to him and she felt like his wife didn’t appreciate him. She said while she complimented him at the party last night his wife didn’t say a word and she thought it was weird and she knew the signs. How? She said she made the same mistake with her ex-husband. He told her what he needed and she ignored it and someone else moved in. Now mind you he never told her anything about his issue with his wife she just picked up on it from meeting her one time. O yeah she’s a WHITE chick.

Please help my boy out.

"Can I Test It Before I Buy It"

Hey! Good people I got a hot one for today. I had a talk with some people about having SEX before marriage. Now in the good book the (Bible) it says that you should wait to have sex until you get married, some may say “why”. I mean if you meet someone and the connection is there why not, I mean you are feeling them you trust them enough to let them enter your body or you enter theirs so what’s the big deal. What if I don’t ever get married? What if the person that I’m having sex with is the person that I’m going to marry? Why should I wait? What if I wait and it’s not good, then I’m stuck.

Okay people what’s up let me know your take on this one.

"Do You Know What You Want"

What’s up ladies and gents. I had a quick but deep conversation with a friend today. We talked about “what women really want”. She is a female and was saying that it’s so many women that say they want this in a man and that in a man but don’t have anything to offer as being a woman. Women sometimes not all the time ask for way more than what they are ready for. Now it’s some men that do the same but most don’t because they know that nine times out of ten or they believe that the woman that he’s pursuing already has it together. Nope not all of them. It’s called selling yourself, kind of like what you do when your interviewing for a job. Once you get the job then you have to prove yourself. Why? Why do women have it all planed out what they want their man to do and have for them and I have only heard once what she was going to do for him. Destiny’s Child “Cater To You”. Help me out what are the women going to do in the relationship, when are they going to realize that the man they want is not always the man they need.

I know yall about to give it to me on this one.

Has The South Really Risen?

Hey people one of the followers sent me this.



As we all know the South, has deep history of segregation through the civil rights movement and the slavery era. Today the question is posed…………..has the south really risen? It has been reported that in Southern states such as Georgia, Mississippi, and more, that some high schools are having segregated proms! This has dumbfounded me, but in doing research it shows that parents and students in these areas have been supportive of the idea of segregating the proms and this baffles me even more. Stars such as Morgan Freeman, has even offered to pay for his old high school’s first integrated prom. The idea was embraced by the students, but rejected by the parents. What will it take to really overcome? and what is your opinion on this topic. You can see the documentary on this in July on HBO titled “Prom Night in Mississippi”.

"Is She Feeling Me"

What’s up people. One of my good friends has an issue at his job. He is feeling this chick that works with but he doesn’t know if he is her type. She is in a Executive position at his job and he doesn’t want to step to her and lose his job and a chance to get with her. She comes pass his desk ever day to go to meeting and other job activities and she always makes it her business to speak or if he’s on the phone touch him on the shoulder. He’s confused because he feels she is throwing the signals but he doesn’t want to assume anything. Help my boy out how does he handle this one?

" You Better Get Yo Boy"

Good day people. I was listening to the “Steve Harvey Show” this morning and on the strawberry letter it was a young lady talking about her boyfriends friend.
Her boyfriend is in something called the GMC club, not sure what that is but anyway. He brings one of his club members to the house to work out with him and she thinks that the friend is FINE AS HELL. When he comes over she goes upstairs and stays until he leaves. She says when he is there he just does something to her, he’s talk dark and fine and she told her boyfriend to stop bringing him to the house and he laughed and said girl you crazy. Okay he stupid cause when a woman has enough of whatever to tell you she is feeling your homeboy in a direct way or indirect way you need to act on it then.

Okay so how would you handle the situation fellas from and man’s stand point how would you handle it.

Ladies from a woman’s stand and have you ever been in that position or how would you handle it.

"My Head Hurts"

Okay people I know I’m late today got a good one though. Talked to a couple of dudes and we had a conversation about why is it that we have to wait for sex and when we do get it, it’s on the women’s time. I mean if I know that you need something and it’s my responsibility to make sure you have it why can’t I get the same treatment. I’m ready done dropped all kinds of hints walking around the house naked and it’s like uh that’s nice, O my head hurts. What! Your head hurts well mine doe’s too and it’s not the one on my shoulders. I talked to one guy and he said it’s happens only 1 or 2 times a month. Ladies what’s up help us out what do we need to do? I mean when you want it we ready, no questions.

"Shawn Or Michael"

O boy, good day people got another hot one. One my old roommates from college called me yesterday and was telling me about his girlfriend's sister’s friend. Apparently she has meet a guy over in Atlanta . Now the sister use to live in Atlanta as well when she was in college. The friend is telling the sister how great this guy is what he has going for his self, how handsome and fine he is and how he is blowin her back out. A couple of years ago the sister had the same kind of guy in her life same things going for his self and everything, well the relationship didn’t work out and they moved on. When she was telling her about this guy she made the statement "O that sounds like Mike". She replied no it’s not him his name is Shawn and she replied “O Okay”. Now mind you the friend never meet this guy she only heard about him. Well the thing is, his name is Shawn and his name is Mike …..uh Shawn Michael is his WHOLE name. O BOY! Yeah I know right. Well the friend is in love with this dude and until yesterday the sister wasn’t 100% sure this was the same guy. Well when the friend called and told her that she spent the night at his house and he has a mirror on his ceiling with SM on it . WOW! Now the friend and Shaw are coming to town for a concert on Friday and she wants her to meet him. The sister doesn’t know what to do or how to tell her that she use to date this guy and they have broken a few items in his apartment while she was in college. The twist is the sister still talks to this guy from time to time and they have been playing with the idea of getting back together. WHAT!

Okay folks you know what to do. O it’s gone be Hot Lanta for real this weekend.

O I made the name up, got to keep it professional.

"White Is Right"

What’s up people? Let me tell yall about how we continue to keep our selves down (Black People). Ok check it me and my wife went to my younger sisters high school graduation yesterday evening. While at the ceremony we saw a lot of people that we knew mainly me because my wife isn’t from Birmingham. Ok so after the whole deal was over we were standing around talking and my wife saw one of her patients. She was a younger girl may be about 23 or so. My wife asked her how she was and how was her daughter. Well about three weeks ago my wife saw her daughter and discovered that she had and ear infection, she give her so antibiotics to take to help clear it up and informed her that her daughter needed tubes in her ears to help drain the fluid. Well when my wife asked her did she have the surgery for the tubes she said “No I took her to a "WHITE" Doctor and he said she didn’t need them”. A WHITE doctor. O okay. So mind you I hear this and if anybody knows me you know that I will bust that #@^ on the spot. So when she said that I said “WHAT” and my wife just pulled on my arm and I let it go. Where and why do so many of our people get the idea that White is right or its better? I mean my wife graduated with 80 something white doctors and 2 other blacks, she is in the medical honors society graduated with honors. Come on now, black doctors go to the same schools that the white ones do.

What is it going to take for us to wake up and smell the coffee and get debrain washed? O as you can tell I’m pissed.

"If She Only Knew"

One of my boys is in a situation out in Arizona. He and one of his good friends went out to a BBQ this past weekend. Of course there were women there and of course the men were on the hunt to get them some new team members. Me and my boy had a serious conversation about two weeks ago and he was telling me about this chick in the area that he was wanting to get at. He had decided that he was going to settle down and start to look for a wife. Big move right. So In the right mind set they hit the BBQ and start mingling. About an hour later guess who pops out of the house. Yep! Super sexy, the chick he has been checking for the last month or so. So he goes over and speaks starts a conversation on a friendly level and plains to make the big move before he leaves. So being the gentleman that he is, asked her if she wanted some food and fixed her plate. Okay while they were eating she asked him who was the guy that he came with. He replied O that’s my boy! So the night went on and before leaving he saw her walking towards them. To his surprise she pulled his boy to the side and gives him her number. What ! Yeah I know that ain’t it though, his boy is MARRIED. He asked him was he going to tell her and he was like she didn’t ask, “I’m going to take whatever she gives me”. O yeah during their conversation she told my boy she was ready for her husband.

Crazy huh. So should my boy tell her he’s married or should he lose his potential wife and keep a friend. – that’s cheating on his wife.

" I Dont Like Being Under Your Spot Like"

Good day people. Got some new info from a follower. Check it. If you and your mate work together either married, dating, boyfriend, girlfriend or cut buddy there are some rules that need to be laid down. The follower had an issue with a co-worker and a new found love at the work place. The follower and friend were cool and as time went on a relationship developed between the friend and another co-worker. Well their friendship started to become indirect instead of direct. The new found love wasn’t all that fond of the follower holding conversations and office visits with the new piece. So out of respect for the new relationship the follower backed off and made the friendship a “Hey how are you type deal”. Now the follower stated that it may be some insecurity issues here. So what’s your take on this issue and other work place relationships?

"What ! You Ain't Gone Tell Him"

Hey guys you must check this out. Got an email from one of the followers on here and this is what one of her friends sent her. O thanks for the info.

Ladies I got a story about that too!!!! I was in a wedding of a girlfriend who lived in Atlanta..I took my friend with me it was a busy weekend..I took a red eye out Friday night..anyway..Saturday, after the wedding I’m dog tired..I only got about 2-3 hours sleep..I go back to my room..to go to bed b/c I’m flying out Sunday afternoon...my friend decided to chill, hang out with groomsmen…Well, she hooked up with the grooms man who walked me down the aisle..

Guess what??? Saturday I'm hosting her baby shower..she got pregnant by him (he don't know)..she's keeping the baby of course b/c she wants one soooooo bad..crazy huh?
Just thought I’d share a little drama but more importantly show U how trifling some women are. I love her, but she wrong. This girl is kind of the drama queen..she isn't going to tell him either..she doesn't know him..besides keeping me company while I attended the wedding..They never spoke after that night, she says she isn't going to Atlanta again..she’s convinced she doesn't see a reason to tell him..What ya’ll think?

"The Starter Wife"

What’s up good people? Awhile back I had a conversation with a young lady and she was asking what should she do about her situation. The problem is, her husband who is younger had made some mistakes in their marriage. In his defense she said he didn’t have a father in the home to teach him certain things about marriage. She said he was starting to get better and working on his problems. She was still playing with the idea of leaving. I told her not to be a starter wife and she asked what is that. I told her it was a woman was in a marriage and left after all the heart breaks and pain. A wife who didn’t believe in change and one who went through all the bad times and the LEARNING stages of a marriage and left. Well what happens is the next woman that he meets and starts a new marriage with is going to rep all the blessings from your pain and heart ache. So I told her to hang in there and give it time pray about it and be positive. God doesn’t put more on you than you can bare. If you leave the next man might be twice as bad.

So do you think there is a such thing as a starter wife?

"Dont Ask For It If Your Not Ready"

Good day people. I over heard some guys talking about their fiancé and girlfriend. The conversation was about why do women all ways say they want a good man or husband and they really don’t know what they are asking for. One guy was like “yeah man I know I’m a good dude, she told me I was what she has been waiting on and all that”. Okay but why is it that you don’t know how to be a good woman and do what you need to do to keep a good man. The other said “ I heard my girl in the bathroom the other night talking to somebody and she said “girl he is so good to me and I have no complaints, Im not use to that I don’t know what to do”. Hmmmmmm. Okay ladies what’s up?

Why is it that some of you pray and ask for good men and you ain’t got your ducks in a row?

And when you get him you don’t know what to do to maintain him?

"Was he flirting"

Okay just got a call from my friend and his wife they fowarded me an email that he sent to one of his female class mates from high school. Well his wife thought that it should have been about the class reunion and that's it. Below I will paste the conversation tell me what you think.







April 23 at 9:06pm
Out of the blue. It's a pleasure to know youre still around and doing well.How have you been? is an overused question. I find it much more interesting to ask..........TELL ME EVERYTHING I'VE MISSED ABOUT YOUR LIFE SINCE HIGH SCHOOL (PRETEND WE WERE BEST FRIENDS)


April 27 at 2:22pm
Hey .. I see that you still have your sense of humor :-) I'm doing well, how are you? Sorry it took me so long to respond.. I haven't checked my inbox in a while....

April 28 at 9:27am
wow, its so nice to talk to someone from the past. nice pictures by the way, I never knew you could look so good, lol.



April 28 at 9:34am
I know right.. HA, you're funny... thanks... I think lol



April 28 at 9:42am
No really, I didn't know you could look that good... just playing. hmmmmmm... awkward silence.......Are you still in alabama



April 28 at 9:54am
Oh whatever... I'm just all grown up now:-) I see you have gained some weight...awkward silence lolYes, I am still here, for now.



April 28 at 9:57am
do me a favor, call my office phone. And no im not coming on to you.



April 28 at 9:58am
im supposed to be doing paperwork not typing.



April 28 at 9:59am
Ah... I figured that.. married man lol.. I'm about to go into a meeting... I will call sometime today



April 28 at 10:10am
that'll work.



May 11 at 10:52am
I didn't forget about ya...well maybe I did... sorry lol



Today at 8:59am
I figured you forgot, just let me know if there is a high school reunion being planned. AT least you can admit you forgot.



Today at 9:00am
you get two points for that



Today at 9:09am
Aw well thanks for the two points... I will find out for ya... I think so, but I'm not sure.



Today at 9:10am
alright

"Soul Mate"

Hey resently had a conversation with a young lady and she asked me why I decided to get married. I told her that I prayed to God for my wife and when I saw her without knowing a thing about her, her name, never heard her speak a word. I just heard a voice that said thats your wife. She thought I was full of it. What do you think?

Is it possible to know your life partner on site, with out knowing anything about them?