"Long Showers"

Hey people got a pretty serious situation. One of our followers is a single mother of a 15 year son. He is a good kid very active in sports and gives her no problems. Well as of late he has been taking longer showers and she has found some adult movies in his room. She doesn’t know how to approach the situation and when she does, she isn’t really sure what to say. So the question is how should she handle her son in this situation?

"What's the Hold Up"

Hey I was talking with a young lady over the weekend about her boyfriend situation. She asked me a lot of questions about why hasn’t he ever said anything about marriage and when she brings it up or asked him what’s his take on it the subject changes. He doesn’t want to talk about it or they will talk later. They have been together for 2 ½ years and the relationship has been good for the most part, she is just ready for the next step. He is 30 and she is 28 they both have good jobs with stability. He has a kid and she has none. When she asked what’s the problem he tells her that he just wants to make sure he has all his ducks in a row. Meaning he wants to have a house and everything set up for them when they decide to marry. The question is when is it or is it a time line on when marriage should be a topic of discussion between a couple? Do women require men to have certain things set in place before marriage, besides the common trust things.

"Why Do It'

Good day people, I was asked a question by a follower Why do men and women cheat on their spouse’s and is it cheating if your not married. Meaning if your dating or engaged.

"Whats Enough"

Good day people and welcome to all the new followers. In today's world it's almost impossible to find someone man or woman who doesn’t have a kid already. I some cases the father has custody in most cases (over half) the mother has custody. When dealing with this situation you run into who does what and when who should do this or that. Some may say that the mom has the biggest part of the load others see It different. Now some see it best to go through the courts to decide who pays what part. Others think it can be worked out between the parents. Now the question is, who’s to say what the court orders the male or female to pay is enough. So when and what is enough for the parent that does not have custody of the child to pay or do?

" The Biggest Deceivers"

Good day people got a question. We are at work having a conversation about who are the biggest deceivers, men or women. Is it women with their fake accessories nails, hair, eyelashes, make up exc… or is it men with what they really want in a woman, or what is their real intent.

"Is It A Fad Or Is It Me"

What’s up good people I had a conversation with some people about a pretty risky issue. Gays and Lesbians, some say I was born that way, some may say I had such bad luck with the opposite sex and I decided to just see how it was. Can it be that bad!? I mean it’s so many people going that way now it seems to be a fad, it’s even starting in the middle schools with the young kids. I mean can you be born that way or is it a choice? Are men and women really suppose to be lovers of themselves?

"What Is He Really Saying"

Does he really want me or not?

They have been friends since elementary school, since adulthood they have became more than just friends, but with no title. Both kind of them really did not know where this relationship would go and both still talked to other people. They start to develop stronger feelings for each other, but now he gets his ex- girlfriend pregnant and marries her because of it. Even with the marriage they still keep their under cover relationship continues for about 4 years and now he is not with the wife anymore. She thinks that since he is separated from his wife and now seeking a divorce they will be together, since they’ve been together for the last 4 years. Well, now he says that he is not in a position to take care of a wife and that what he wants to be able to do, he keep stressing that he is not really focusing on being with anyone right now, he is even practicing celibacy, and told her that he just wants to be friends. She wants to know, “Does he really want me or not?”

"Re-Cap" --What's A Man To Do

Hey people I got a call from my boy this morning about 5am. He told me that he went to bed last night about 9 and his wife was up doing some things around the house. She came to bed about 12, neither one of them could really sleep tossing and turning and eventually in the process of rolling over they ended up face to face and kissing took place. Well they went ahead and did the business, he said it was okay he really wasn’t into it because of all the drama going on. Well about two hours later he was awakened by her hitting him and calling him another guys name. DAMN! He said he asked her what did she say and she said it again not knowing that she was talking in her sleep. She woke up and he asked her who this guy was and she was like I was dreaming I don’t even know what I said and I don’t even know anyone by that name. O….kay………. Now what’s up? Help my boy before he goes to the crazy house.

"What's The Real Deal"

Hey when you have a situation like this it’s hard to pin point the real deal. A lady in her late 20’s early 30’s works for a law firm that happens to be all males and all white. Now she never really put that much effort in to her appearance, now she was always nice looking but she never put that extra on it to send her over the top. Now she has been working here for about a year and a half now. Well about a month ago she started to dress a little more sexy for work she started to go all out with the appearance and wearing things that she said before was to much for work. Well her husband noticed this and started to pay more attention to what she was wearing and asked what brought about the change. She told him nothing what are you talking about I always dress this way. Well they went to the mall on one Saturday and ran into this guy. He walked up to her and spoke and then turned to the husband and introduced himself as the new lawyer at the firm she was working at. O *&^*. Now he also said that he was the first black male to ever work for this firm and he was glad to have her to help him and they couldn’t have chose a better assistant for him. While all this is going on his wife is standing there looking like somebody just knocked the breath out of her. She usually tells him whenever somebody new starts there and what goes on but he didn’t hear about this guy. The husband didn’t say anything and hasn’t mentioned a word since. Now how should he handle this one? Is it something more to it or is he just going over board?

" I Wonder"

What’s up people I had a quick conversation with some co-workers yesterday. I asked the question to two young ladies. Do women become curious about a man who has a lot of women that he deals with, no ties to either one of them but he is having sex with all of them. Now here’s how it went. Two guys live in an apartment, across the hall lives a single female. Now they have been living there for about 6mnths and this female has witnessed an array of women go in and out of this apartment. She has conversations with these two guys and sometimes jokes about the women coming over so often. Now not knowing but two of her good friends had already become victims of the apartment and had been telling her how good the product was. She made the statement I don’t care and don’t want to know and will never find out. O Really. My question is do women think about how good a guy is when she hears the stories from friends or other women and does that makes them want to try it out?

"What's A Man To Do"

Good day people I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. I wasn’t going to post this but I was asked to by both parties. It has been revised from its original state.

I have a good friend who is in a bad spot in his marriage, they are dealing with the 2nd biggest reason for divorce SEX. They got married a couple of years back and the sex was good for a while then it started to slow down, he wanted it she didn’t, her head was hurting and she was tired. Well he ended up running into one of his old flings, they never had sex before and nothing ever came of the relationship. Well this night when they ran into each other they had a couple of drinks and ended up talking in her car. She started to kiss on him making moves exc… now fyi he hasn’t had sex in about 2mnths because he is scared to asked his wife for the fear of rejection. Well any way they ended up in her apartment and you know what happen next. Well she started texting and calling him to get a seconded round but he wasn’t feeling it, after the first time he felt really bad and didn’t know how to deal with it. Well the wife found out about the whole thing through his cell phone. Now she decided that she wasn’t going to leave and they would just have to work it out. What got him was she stayed and also they started to have sex all the time she was doing things he had been asking for and she never did and he was getting it on the regular. After a while the same old things started happening again, but now it was that she told him that she wasn’t really into him sexually anymore. She didn’t want to have sex and when they did she would tell him “I don’t really feel like it but come on and hurry up” now he is really into the foreplay thing and she isn’t , it’s certain places that she won’t let him kiss or touch. She never comes on to him, and when he comes on to her she tells him she’s not In the mood. Now he asked her what the deal was and why the sex isn’t popping off the way it was. She had no answer. Well when she wants it he’s ready and she likes to go like 3-4 times a night, and when she wants it he better be ready. Huh! Well he’s in a spot now where he doesn’t know how to handle it, he knows cheating is not the way to go, and he really wants to please his wife and he’s lost on how to make it happen. He asked me “ man if she was going to act like this I would have rather her just left and been with someone else why did she stay”. He has tried everything and doesn’t know what to do. Hell I don’t know what to tell him. Help this brother out.

"What Now"

Okay people got some more 4th of July drama. A follower sent me a email and asked me to post this.

I have been dating this guy for about a year and a half now. He lives in Arkansas and I live in Birmingham, we met on a business trip last year in New Jersey. He let me know up front that he was looking for a wife and wanted to settle down at the time he was 28 and I was 26. At about the 9mth stage of our relationship we started to talk about marriage here and there. He started asking what would we do about the distance and all and who would move and jobs exc….. Well me and some friends have been going to the Essence Festival for the last couple of years. Well before I left he asked was I going and I told him yes, he was like cool I’m just going to stay here and chill. It was weird because he kept asking are you sure your going what day your leaving and all. Well we got to LA and got settled, Sat we went out and checked out some acts. Well later that night my company had a met and greet for some employees that worked at the office there. When we get there my girlfriend pointed out this guy and was like “ that looks like Jay your ex-boyfriend” . Yep it was Jay. I asked him what was he doing there and he was like I knew you would be here for the festival and I wanted to see you. I asked how did he know about my jobs met and greet, he tells me he called the office manager and she told him. Well anyway we talked about the past of course I told him I had someone and I was happy. He kept on with the let’s try it again BS. Well they were taking picture’s at the party and they got one of us. Well I get back to Birmingham and to my surprise my man was in bham, he wanted me to ride with him somewhere. We get to this place where they are doing construction on this new home, we walked in and he asked me did I like it, I said yes but why are we here. He didn’t answer and we walk through the rest of the house. Well when we got to the bedroom and on the mantle was a box and a picture. He said to answer your question why are we here, he said this is the home that I was planning on moving into with you if you would have answered the question that I was going to asked you and it was will you marry me. Now I have second thoughts because I saw the pics from your companies met and greet and looks like to me that one of your home girls looks just like your ex-boyfriend Jay. My heart dropped to the floor. Yall I don’t know what to do please help me. I tried to explain to him what happen but he isn’t hearing it.

"Surprise"

Well we all know that the 4th of July is one of the biggest holidays of the year. You have friends and family from all over the country coming in to get that BBQ. It also is a time where a lot of mess goes on in families. A follower sent me this email on the 4th in the middle of the day. She is a 30 year old fashion designer and personal shopper for some big wigs in Atlanta. Well back in high school and college she was dating this guy who was “the guy” to be dating. Well she later found out that he wasn’t all that everyone thought he was. His parents were lawyers and were pretty well off, her dad worked for Ford in Atlanta and her mom worked for Clayton County School system. She has a twin sister and two younger brothers, well she comes home for the 4th from working in DC for a while and guess who’s at the house? Yep the ex-boyfriend from back in the day, who is now a lawyer at his parents firm. Well when she came home she brought her new boyfriend who is an average guy he’s working on his own business and trying to make it. Well when she gets there and see’s him she pulls her mom to the side and asked why he was there, her mom tells her that she thinks they need to work their past problems out and get married. Well the new boyfriend ain’t feeling the whole ex being around, her dad didn’t really speak to him, her mom just said “hi” and what do you do for a living and reminded him of what her daughter does for a living. The whole time they were there the ex was trying to hug on her and flirting and tried to kiss her when she came out of the restroom. After a while the new boyfriend left and went back to DC, yeah got on the plane and went back home. He told her if this is how her parents are going to treat him he wants no part of this family. DAMN! Now she asked me how to handle this. So I need you all to help me out and give her some feedback on how to handle her parents and this ex boyfriend.

"Double Dutch"

I was listening to Mike Baisden yesterday while driving home. His topic of discussion was, can a person be in love with two people or love to people and if your not married why do you lie about dating other people? I was a shocked at the amount of people that called in saying that they were in love with two people, most shocking is that the majority were women. They spoke about how they had two and three men and how they pay her bills and give her money. I mean is it possible to love to people or can you love one and be in love with the other?