Monday, August 17, 2009
"Man Against Machine"
I got an email from a follower over the weekend. His question was, “ How do I compete with a machine”? His problem is with his wife and her silver bullet. They have sex and in his opinion it’s good. He gets a pretty good reaction from her when he is handling his business in the bedroom. Well the issue is that when she uses this toy she tends to lose her mind and he’s just laying there not knowing what to do. He was like I’m not sure if I’m taking this the wrong way or what. What should I do. The question I pose is, can sex toys help or hinder a sexual relationship.
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They hinder relationships! Man cannot compete with a machine sorry. She may enjoy her husband and all but he's not that bullet lol. I know a few couples that use the toys together but they still have sex issues. I think she should do away with the bullet because it's like a substitute for what her husband may not be doing. Kinda like cheating unfortunately.
ReplyDeletethe bullet is a fool!
ReplyDeleteOkay One what do you mean it's a fool.
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ReplyDeleteThis question you posed can truly be taken on a case by case basis. Could be a hindrance to an insecure man or a help to a man that really wants to learn his woman's body. If she's using the apparatus that means that no matter how good her husband THINKS the sex is, he's not taking her where she needs to go....thats where the apparatus comes into play. Most men think that they are handling their business and thats because the woman is giving positive feedback in the bedroom. But sometimes that positive feedback isnt indicative of an eruption from the woman. And yes, some women who really love their man will let him think that he's handling his business too. But if she is going to the moon and stars with her husband and still desires the apparatus...then she may just have a problem. This guy is going to have to have a convo with his wife. He needs to ask her if she's "arriving" with the methods that he's using and if she isnt, then maybe she'll allow him try something different to tap into getting her to the stars/moons or allow him to wield the "apparatus" and use it on her. Pretty sad that she has to please herself while he's on the outside looking in, being a mere spectator. But it happens.
I agree with Charlotte, something like this really depends on the situation. I would like to know has she always been using the toys or is this something new. If she's always had them but has been pulling them out more frequently OR if just purchased them, he may have something to worry about. He should ask her if there's something she's missing. I don't know the extent of their sexual encounters but there may be one particular button he's overlooking (and if you've seen a bullet, you know what button I'm talking about). He may need to explore some other forms of sexual intercourse. I disagree with those that said it's sad she uses it...there may be a genuine reason. I know couples who use them together. Sometimes things like a bullet can be a big time saver...lol. I do agree though it can never be a substitute because there isn't one for the real thing. If she's using it to fill a void, he may need to find out what she's missing.
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