Tuesday, July 20, 2010
"Wifey Material"
Good day all, I want to first start by saying thank you for the over whelming response to the Blog topic yesterday. “Good Girls” has the most comments of all the blogs. Today I want to stay on the women, let’s talk about “Wifey Material”. Often we as men get a list of requirements on what we must have to be with a certain woman or what they expect their husband to do and be. What about the women though, with all these requirements what are you bringing to the table? Also are you ready to be what he needs as a wife? Some women want and require good men but can’t hold water in a bathtub, or they aren’t ready for what they asked for.
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The “list” is given by both men and women and having a “list” isn’t a bad thing as long as it’s within reason and flexible. We women aren’t just on the giving end. I think if most of us were honest, men and women alike, we’d admit that for the most part we’re not sure what to expect from a husband/wife. All we know is what we’ve seen and some of us haven’t had good examples. Or, we come up with some fantasy about what a marriage should look like. I’m 29 and am just now learning what a good, healthy marriage looks like. Knowing what I bring and what he brings to the table is of the utmost importance and not only the good stuff. I need to know and let him what baggage comes with me and he needs to know and let me know the same as no one goes into a relationship with no baggage. Furthermore, I need to know the family baggage because I’ll inherit that as a wife. Some men are no more ready for what they ask for than women. I know a man right now who’s says this woman in his life is everything he wants and he really wants to marry her, but he can’t commit to her because he’s not “ready”. So, your answers are definitely worthy of answers, but the men need to answer these same questions. What is he bringing to the table? Does he know what he needs from his wife? Is he ready to be what she needs as a husband? Is he even ready for he’s been asking for?
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Tami Brown
ReplyDeleteU bring up a good point. Men should know what they are looking for in a wife...just as women should know what they are looking for in a husband. Each individual should know what they have to offer, what they can bring to a realtionship, and if they are ready for marriage. When u get to be a certain age...these are things that should be thought about and worked towards. In my opinion!
.Niekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteThat's WHY I'm waiting on Hubby Material cuz I know dayum well I'm Wifey Material! You will not use me!!!#celibate
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteLMAO!! I am not mad atcha but I know yo yoni is cursing u out! Saying I talk an order of ass up face down PLEASE!! lol
.Niekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteSo Nicholas since you're married. What does a man look for when he is looking for wifey
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteNik how long have u been married and r u happy?
Monica Morris
ReplyDelete@ Nicholas if someone else is better would u fight. This no lie i asked 5 different men to but me some groceries-Results, 2 of them said they broke,1- didnt answer,1 said he had $25 then he used 5 for gas,then used some for lunch so that left me $12. the last one said they didnt pencil me in an i gotta wait 2 weeks to get a check nigga u clock in ...
What's good Queen Zulu!
ReplyDeleteAisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteMomo u have their backs but they dont have yours! That ish aint cool! Yo stuff needs to join Niekkia's! Lock it up and hide the key!
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteYall are off the chain and I am LMAO off on how you all just switched up the convo. I have been married for 6 years and I am happy. A marriage is about putting in the work to reach a common goal as well as growing and building together. I think you have to be open to new things and not selfish if you want to make it work especially if you have ... See Morechildren. I am not saying it has always been a cake walk because I know there were months when both of us were like wtf, but we kept praying and staying open to the bigger picture. You have to find someone who wants to grow with you and that you can enhance as well as allow them to enhance you!
iekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteOh yeah, I've been asked for house visit but if I ask come help me cut my grass or trim a hedge...those niggas get ghost. You wanna come over chill in my air/heat, eat my food and get some arse but can't help a sista!!!! But you looking for wifey cuz you think you a good man?
Nicholas White -LL
ReplyDeleteok to me wifey material is all in what u want in a wife, by no means should u expect something from anyone that ur not willing to give. I have been married almost 4 years. If its another dude out there trying to get at my wife of coures I will fight. Its not a one day deal though u have to fight everyday. I can't just lay down and let another dude beat me at a game I have already won.
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteNIC r u faithful?
Monica Morris
ReplyDelete@ Nicholas what if u doing all this fighting and ur wife still cheats but she tells u she just did it cause u made her mad or wasnt showing her any attention at that time, then what...do u continue to fight cause that other man is only doing what ur wife is letting him do
Niekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteThat was a GREAT from both married people
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteLol! It was very therapeutic for me so I am glad I got that name confused....lol!
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteLOL I meant NIC not Nik! But well said NIK!
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteLol! It was very therapeutic for me so I am glad I got that name confused....lol!
Hang in there ladies and don't give up on that good man out there. He is supposed to find you and you have the choice to say yes so don't put up with the bull that people have been throwing your way. Pray for that special someone to come your way and when you have... See More a bad feleling....run because your heart does not lie. I think each of you deserve the best in life and in a mate and it might take some time but use that time to enhance yourself so when he comes along you have just as much to give as you want to receive.
Nicholas White
ReplyDeleteAt that point I need to know was it just that I made her mad or is it more. Now I will fight as long as she's wanting to be with me by admitting and showing me. Now if ur mouth is saying one thing and ur legs keep flying open for Jodi then its time to exit off.
Monica Morris
ReplyDeleteThats so sweet Nik! We luv u 2!
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteI don't blame you on that Nic because you can't fight for someone who is not worth the fight or who does not really want to be with you.
Ura PictureThis
ReplyDeleteWaiting to exhale.........;)........
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteBeing an "us" is alot of WERK! So much easier being selfish and self centered in a relationship... :-/
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Monica Morri
ReplyDeletesame here Nic...i will fight a bitch about mine also..i aint scared cause umm be like bitch didnt he tell ur ass he didnt want ur ass and that mf better b right there to tell her ass that aint no happening. now if i catch is ass with her again umm beat his ass i mite not win against a man but we both will be some tired bitches when we get through
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteNIC HAVE U BEEN FAITHFUL THROUGHOUT UR MARRIAGE??
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteIsha it is always easier to be selfish but you never grow and learn to adapt to different things because you always get it your way. It is truly a sense of peace and a glorious thing when you can give as much or more than what you want. Now I am not saying be a fool and give your all to someone who does not deserve it, but just be open to the possibilities! Man yall are making me just want to love on Cleg right now...lol!
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteNIK Im realizing that... :-) We all need to grow..
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteGO MAKE LOVE OT UR MAN GIRL! Lay it down for Niekkia and Momo 2! LOL
Nicholas White
ReplyDelete@Zulu yes but it is the hardest thing to do, not because I dont want to but because it's so much temptation. I hate when people say o it aint nothin out there. Let me tell you thats a lie! its plenty out there.
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteLol Isha!
Niekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteYes, do Cleg real good!!!! LOL
Aisha Zulu Well
ReplyDeleteNIC if u r telling the truth I am proud of u! Keep doing ur best cuz it def pays off in the end! Keep up the good fight BROTHER!
icholas White
ReplyDeleteOk why is it that im the only dude on here commenting? Damn we cant let women led everything!
icholas White
ReplyDeleteO why you gotta say if im telling the truth? lol o ye of little faith. Thanks though.
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeletewomen lie.. men lie... numbers dont lie! LOL
Ura PictureThis
ReplyDelete@Nic I was told to listen more....lololo when looking at a wife and husband material you have to realize that the MATERIAL is raw and not the finish product.......ironically most people who finds the material they need.......don't even have a damn building permit or tools to make the material into the product they want......most of us not prepared for what we say we want......our hearts are bigger than our brains
Aisha Zulu
ReplyDeleteU have a good point Ura...
Nicholas White
ReplyDeleteI agree but it will always be raw in marrige, it will never be done. Its a on going effort. That's why they say until death do us part. Its done when ur done.
Ura PictureThis
ReplyDelete@nic......your product is your wife.....far from raw however.....regular maintaince is part of your product.......as a homeowner (metaphoric speaking) you always have to work on the home...its not easy....but its not raw either.....its what your tools built from raw material
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeletegreat point Ura
Fd Watts III
ReplyDeleteGroceries? Lol
Cutting grass? In this summer heat(hell no!) But I'll get my mexican brothers right on over to cut my lady yard while she make us lunch. Lol
On the groceries note-uhhhhhhhh NO
Lol
Niekkia DivaNine Pierce
ReplyDeleteLOL...I'm not mad at you Frank. At least, you would make an effort. What did you think about the groceries? What would you do Frank?
Nicole Stephens
ReplyDeleteLol @ Frank
Fd Watts III
ReplyDeleteIf I buy your groceries u my woman. If u as 5 dudes then that mean I'm apart of a team. Baby I gotta be the team if I'm buying groceries. Lol