One of my boys is in a situation out in Arizona. He and one of his good friends went out to a BBQ this past weekend. Of course there were women there and of course the men were on the hunt to get them some new team members. Me and my boy had a serious conversation about two weeks ago and he was telling me about this chick in the area that he was wanting to get at. He had decided that he was going to settle down and start to look for a wife. Big move right. So In the right mind set they hit the BBQ and start mingling. About an hour later guess who pops out of the house. Yep! Super sexy, the chick he has been checking for the last month or so. So he goes over and speaks starts a conversation on a friendly level and plains to make the big move before he leaves. So being the gentleman that he is, asked her if she wanted some food and fixed her plate. Okay while they were eating she asked him who was the guy that he came with. He replied O that’s my boy! So the night went on and before leaving he saw her walking towards them. To his surprise she pulled his boy to the side and gives him her number. What ! Yeah I know that ain’t it though, his boy is MARRIED. He asked him was he going to tell her and he was like she didn’t ask, “I’m going to take whatever she gives me”. O yeah during their conversation she told my boy she was ready for her husband.
Crazy huh. So should my boy tell her he’s married or should he lose his potential wife and keep a friend. – that’s cheating on his wife.
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Why is there so much drama in the world. Brother can't even leave a slice for his homeboy. Seriously, she had her eyes set on someone else. NOT MEANT TO BE! I think he should remain close but distant at the same time. Because if he is really ready for a wife he needs to examine/re-examine his life and friendships more closely. Why is he still "FRIENDS" with someone who is cheating on his wife.
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ReplyDeleteHELL YEAH he should tell her...excuse my languange. First of all why wasn't this married man wearing his wedding ring?? Obviously he was there to see what he could get, and she's gone be his victim. This is not his first time, he's obviously cheated on numerous occasions. That's not fair to that female if he does not let her know. Let it be her chose if she wants to be a slut as well as help be a home wrecker (some people wreck their own homes). He gone continue to see "what he can get" and end up with something he can't get rid of. I also agree with Black Pearl this guy should re-examine his circle of friends b/c his habits will in some way eventually rub off on him.
ReplyDelete"Husband" is trifling!!! I've read over the situation to make sure that I didn't miss anything. I think that the "Gent" was trying to make a subtle approach, but sometimes women can't take hints! If he was that into her, then he should've put it out there that he was interested and that would've left the gate open for Super Sexy to express her interest or "dis"interest in him. However, since it didn't seem to flow that way, she's like, "ooh, who's your friend?" And now Gent is bent out of shape because his boy is being a trifling azz POON HOUND! If Gent is looking for a wife, it would be beneficial for him to alter his surrounding and re-evaluate who he spends his time with. Misery loves company! "Trifling" on the other hand is a whole 'nother blog post. He's a mess and sounds to be very obnoxious, so this makes me believe that he does not tell women that he's married and has done this before. Gent will be okay and will find his wife one day as long as he keeps his mindset right and look to God to lead him to his special lady...obviously it is not Super Sexy.....Hopefully, "Trifling" will be straight up with Super Sexy and it will be her choice to deal with him or not...too bad, she might be missing out on a real Gent and getting something that ain't worth one CENT! LOL!
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One! you are so funny. I like that anwser though. DST I was wondering the same thing about the ring, and like black pearl said it just wasn't meant to be. "Good things come to those who wait".
ReplyDeleteWell…I have a different approach…Okaaaay..Some of my best friends make bad decisions or have characteristics that are not exactly like ours..I don’t think that depicts me in a negative light..If I have three homegirls that are gold diggers, pretty loose with the cookies and don’t pay taxes….That has nothing to do with me…They’re the idiots.I don’t see what that has to do with us hanging out and being friends..Actions & stupidity don’t rub off on folks. If anything, maybe my friendship can sway them to act responsibily. Maybe, Maybe not…. On the other hand, Now if I choose to start behaving inapproirate, its just that a choice…Nothing to do with whom I’m friends with.. I said that to say, Ole boy, Gent, does not have to cut his tides with the A-hole…The A-hole is just that, an A-hole…an A-hole to his wife, an A-hole for not honoring his vows…It has nothing to do with being an A-hole to your friends. We select who we’re friends with for different reasons, we also should be accountable for our OWN actions..Gent…basically slept…AGAIN!!!!, Obviosuly he slept the first time he saw her as well…that’s his bad…..A-hole, didn’t approach her, she approached him.. A-hole is an A-hole..gent knows that…..He’s been known that..The top of the story begins with….”of course the men were on the hunt to get them some new team members”… …With that said, Gents no fragile babydoll, he knows whats up and how to play this game. Gent needs to move on and keep his eyes open to who’s checkin for him and certainly don’t take a month or so to inititate or establish a connection.
ReplyDeleteI have to disagree somewhat Cali. Maybe it is the old-fashioned, classyness in me. I was brought up to carry myself in a respectful manner and expect nothing less of those I 'choose' to surround myself with or invite into my inner circle. I can't be friends with someone who does not share the same morals as myself. I respect that person for being true to themselves if you want to call it that, but they can be an acquaintance and not be placed in the "friend" circle. The word friend is alwalys being used toooooooooo loosely! I don't feel I need to defend myself for hanging with a gold digger/friend at a night spot when I am not one. As a black woman I already have too many stereotypes to break as it is. Why add more?
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ReplyDeleteI can see where you are coming from. If we choose to be around people that are not "like" us, that's our choice, therefore we should not be pegged as "one of them". However, I know you've heard of Guilt by Association....
I don't disagree with you one bit, but there comes a time, when we are trying to do positive things, we have to let go of negative nouns (people, places and/or things). It's all about positioning and if Gent is truly ready to find his queen, he needs to chill on Triflin' for a little while and stay away from those damn BBQ's LOL! (JK)...And you are so right, Gent slept on his opportunity, however, that may have been for a reason...Super Sexy had already spotted Triflin' and when the opportunity presented itself, she flashayed right on over there....sorry Gent....I'm sorry for Wifey too...umph...
I love this blog....thanks LL!
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Now I’m going deep on yall. Now if Gent looks at this thing a little deeper he would think about the lives that he would be affecting by not telling her or hinting to it in some way. First off he could help his boy destroy his marriage and hurt his wife and kids. If his boy or even super sexy has an STD and they get it up with no protection uh... And most of all he could be holding up his own blessing. It’s a sin to know and not do. If you know all these things and know you could cause pain to someone why not tell them. If it were a kid in the street playing and a truck was coming he would say something. Same thing, when someone breaks your heart it hurts longer than physical pain. You can take meds for that kind of pain. There is no medicine for a broken heart only time heals that.
ReplyDeletePreach Preeecha'!
ReplyDeleteBut seriously, you made a valid point,LL. If I were Gent, I would have pulled Super to the side right when she asked who my friend was and gave her the business...call it a hater move, but aye'....I would've told it and THEN told Triflin' that I TOLD it...
those heartstrings are nothing to be played with...you are so right....
Awwww first let me say that my heart broke a little. Not all nice guys finish last! the unknowing women do though!! wow!! did she miss out or what?!
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NOPE!!! do not tell her nothing!!!! NA-DA!!
WHY?? not his place. in this position his shilvery looks alot like hater-re. I'm just sayn.
Seriously Why can't he just talk with his boy man to man on some real shit. That would be the MAN thing to do. Ask President Barack.
I would prefer for him to approach it from that position first.
I hear U, Black Pearl, but I think we have different views. I portray an exclusiveness and classiness about myself as well. The Boogee Cali in ME doesn’t judge others. All I’m saying is I won’t assassinate a friendship over their bad decisions they are making in their life. Not my place…The A-Hole, the Inconsiderate Mischievous adulter, the schemer who doesn’t pay taxes, the loosey goosey female friend….Its possible for them to be a devoted addition to the friendship in some way.
ReplyDeletePeople will know who I am….IF THEY WATCH ME…..NOT OTHERS.
I told yall this was a hot one. I love all the feedback this is what it's all about mature adults who agree to disagree. Keep it going.
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