What’s up people? Let me tell yall about how we continue to keep our selves down (Black People). Ok check it me and my wife went to my younger sisters high school graduation yesterday evening. While at the ceremony we saw a lot of people that we knew mainly me because my wife isn’t from Birmingham. Ok so after the whole deal was over we were standing around talking and my wife saw one of her patients. She was a younger girl may be about 23 or so. My wife asked her how she was and how was her daughter. Well about three weeks ago my wife saw her daughter and discovered that she had and ear infection, she give her so antibiotics to take to help clear it up and informed her that her daughter needed tubes in her ears to help drain the fluid. Well when my wife asked her did she have the surgery for the tubes she said “No I took her to a "WHITE" Doctor and he said she didn’t need them”. A WHITE doctor. O okay. So mind you I hear this and if anybody knows me you know that I will bust that #@^ on the spot. So when she said that I said “WHAT” and my wife just pulled on my arm and I let it go. Where and why do so many of our people get the idea that White is right or its better? I mean my wife graduated with 80 something white doctors and 2 other blacks, she is in the medical honors society graduated with honors. Come on now, black doctors go to the same schools that the white ones do.
What is it going to take for us to wake up and smell the coffee and get debrain washed? O as you can tell I’m pissed.
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WOW!! What an enslaved mentality to have. SMH. As long as we have INTRA-collective hating amongst ourselves it wont change.
ReplyDeleteThat is sad I know. I am grieving even as I type this post.
Wow, LL...I know you wanted to give her the business. And for Dr. LL to simply grab your arm and walk away speaks volumes about the kind of person she is. Very professional and confident. I would not doubt if the young lady got TALKED into taking the baby to a white doctor for a second opinion...if she was so confident in white doctors, why weren't they the first choice...hmmm...she done opened her mouth to someone and shared her baby's condition. I will tell you exactly how the conversation went..."Girl, I took my baby to the doctor and she said that she has an ear infection and will have to get tubes put in her ears. She gave me some antibiotics to give her to clear up the infection though". Her friend said, "Surgery, ooh, noooo girl...is the doctor WHITE or BLACK?" "Black". "Un-uhhh, If I were you, I would'a taken her to a WHITE doctor because they know what they're doing"....
ReplyDeleteThat little excerpt is what I heard when I read the blog post. This chick is young and does not know any better. This does not make it right, but we are still in the business of tearing each other down. Seems to me that the Good Doctor was being proactive because the problem may resurface and become ongoing...Dr. White is no better than Our Good Doctor...hell, I bet my paycheck that she's even BETTER!
We're pitiful ya'll.....
Thanks for sharing that, LL.
Now this is some serious....I am pissed along with you Life Lessons. Like mentioned before "we" black people still don't get it and it's sad and pathetic. That's why we miss out on so much, and those of us who are trying to make it can't b/c of that mentality of our own. It's hard enough takin that BS from whites. I would rather have my services done by my own kind until they get stupid (we get that way sometimes when we make it or we tend to become unprofessional). I totally agree with One, your wife is very professional and confident...she's on her grown woman:) I like it!
ReplyDeleteWow !!! How sad…Yep, it all started in the slavery days. African slaves in America were told to fear each other and respect the white man. The uneducated African was told that black was ugly and wrong, and white was beautiful and right.
ReplyDeleteThough, We are free…..we are still trained to think that Blacks skimp or find short cuts, or will do half ass jobs, or will scheme you…Bottom line, Blacks don’t support blacks…Unfortunately that’s why Black business don’t last.
I wish your wife would have made her prove her ignorance with an explanation. It’s all good though, that comment was nothing more than her opportunity to take a stab at your wife and show her falsely thought of “self proclaimed superiority” to your wife. Don’t trip, she has the problem, she’s not confident in who she is…..Your wife should dismiss it as flattery….Ole girl, probably got in the car feeling good and thinking…”Mmm I told her…” ….Whatever, she’s an idiot!!!
To the question, What can we do to de-brainwashed,
1. Learn to trust one another
2. Either turn the tv off, or Start demanding positive stories in the media
3. Start supporting positive black community activist
4. Start formally teaching the kids in elementary about equality.
Lastly, read, read, read….Don’t be afraid to break the cycle.
Cali Girl
It is sad to hear that these things continue to happen even in our days with a black president. People, another reminder of how much growing we have to do. I think your wife took some good notes from BEN CARSON. If nothing else, always remain strong and confident in your diagnosis. All she could do was deliver her expert opinion to the patient's mother. It is her choice to take it or go elsewhere as well as her right to get a second opinion. Unfortunately, the racial outside influences only seemed to cause her to seek other advice. Tell your wife, if she doesn't already know, that at the end of the day if she can say she did her best then great and leave the rest to the LORD!
ReplyDeleteYeah she is so calm about stuff and she handled it well, she's a big girl. We talked about it and she said it happens all the time and they all ways come back. Black Doctor's have to be 10 times better just because their black.
ReplyDeleteHey this comment was posted by a follower she sent it to my email.
ReplyDeleteIt never ceases to amaze me the level of ignorance that continues to permeate this society -- particularly some of my African American sisters and brothers. Yet, I am continually reminded that we only preach what we know and we only say what we think we know or what we heard someone else say. The point being: ignorance is something that is erased only through education. I have long since stopped being upset with persons who act in ignorant ways or with those who say ignorant things. It runs much deeper than the mere moment of stupidity. Shame on Ms. Lady for not realizing that this world is made up of us all: black, white, Hispanic and the like and that just as a white doctor (and I am so sure that in her mind, even a white man is better than a white female) is the one that currently renders treatment to her child, so too did her "black momma" do the same for her when she was in her youth. As is with everyone, health care begins at home and for some, Ms. Lady included, so does the educational process.
In other words, I don't care how you put it or how long it has been said but, READING IS FUNDAMENTAL!!! Pick up a book, read a newspaper, watch an educational show, get hooked on phonics, do something to eradicate what is quickly bringing some of my people to a place where we were never intended to be: a place of sheer ignorance.
wow, is there really an easy answer for that?
ReplyDeleteOne must consider only one thing: and yes there are nuances that contribute to who and why of people (tv, family, society, socioeconomic stereotypes, successes failures, etc.) but we must only consider our personal responsibility and how we personally help or hurt the world we live in. Whilst you were offended by the comment the young lady made, you must understand that she does not feel responsible for being a positive influence in this world, she finds value in being negative (whether consciously or subconsciously.) But where there is observation of another one must always observe him or herself, so I offer this challenge: do you fellow bloggers perpetuate racism and racial bias? Selah
honesty is not for the lazy, the weak, or the fearful, its for those who know its power to effect change.
I know im late,but i can tell you this,we (black people) have to work ten times as hard so her patient is selling herself short because we know your wife didn't buy her grades or passed because of someone she knew!
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