Tuesday, June 16, 2009
" I Want One"
I had a follower email me about his situation. His brother’s wife has a friend that is married to a guy that is not so loving. He has the old school mentality, you know I pay all the bills and as long as you and the kids are taken care of you shouldn't’t have anything to complain about. I go and come as I please and you can’t tell me when to be home or where to go. His brother’s wife tries to reason with her to just hang in there and keep on doing her part. He comes home late and sometimes not at all. When the wife and her husband go out with their kids to eat or do family things she always invites her, well her husband tells her she’s a third wheel and all. Now the issue is the follower said that his brother thinks that his wife’s friend is wanting to be with him, she always gives him this look and says how much of a good man he is exc…. He told his brother he feels kind of un easy around her, now she hasn’t come on to him in anyway but he feels like if the opportunity came along she might take it. Not that she’s that type of woman it’s just she wants that type of life, to be able to spend time with her husband and kids and do family stuff. Now how should he handle this with his wife, does he tell her or just let it die out?
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This is from Shaquana.
ReplyDeleteI've seen this scenario before. It doesn't always mean that the woman in the bad relationship is looking to get with that person's man, she may just want what they have. I do know some trifling women who WOULD want the friend's man, though. Sometimes it's not enough to want one like it, they want THAT one. I had a homegirl who was cool. She used to hang around me & my two best friends. She was nice, but we all knew better than to ever leave her around our men. NEVER. & it wasnt that she couldn't get a man, sometimes she HAD a man, but some women need/crave that male attention. I don't know if that's the case with this woman, & I don't think he should be so quick to run that theory by his wife. A friend told me her father said men can sniff out desperate women. That may be what he's picking up on. Not to say she's desperate for him, but maybe in a desperate situation. But if he goes to his wife with that, it may cause unnecessary drama between the wife & her friend. Now, if she crosses the line, I think he should absolutely let the wife know (Hopefully the wife has her women's intuition on). But unless that happens, I think he should just keep his dealings with the friend to a minimum if he feels uncomfortable.