Monday, June 8, 2009
"Just Come On"
What’s up people I had a conversation with a male and a female this weekend about foreplay. I mean is it that important or is it over rated? First I talked to a guy and I asked what is your stand of foreplay. “Well it’s whatever she wants I mean I don’t have to have it or do it just depends on what she wants”. I asked had he ever been called out by a female on his willingness not to do so without being coached. He told me “ Yeah a couple of times but you know they were like slow down take your time we have all night, but I’m like come baby let me do my thing”. I asked him if the one’s that called him out about it were some of the ones who returned for round two. “Nope”. OOOOOOOOOO…… Okay. Well I went on to ask a female the same series of questions and she said that it was a must. “Why” I asked. She said that her body had to be relaxed and at the right temp for her to enjoy and react. She also said that if she deals with a man and he doesn’t start with foreplay he STOPS right then. “Anybody can stick a pole in a whole, can you stimulate me without that”? She said that she has come in contact with some guys who wanted to do the foreplay and didn’t know what to do but she coached them, she also said they were younger. The male I talked to also told me that once he started to do the foreplay he said some of the chicks were like “Just Come On”, what do I do now? So my question is. Is foreplay that important and when is it need and not need?
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Foreplay is a must but it is mental just as much as it physical. I've often said a man will talk himself right out of some cookie. You just want to say "Shhh, don't talk! Just listen!" Much of what you say can determine how far we get. If you're not talkin right and we still do it, that's just becuase I wanted to, not because of some strong animal magnitism you posses that made me want to sleep with you. Women make the determination right up front, like men, if we're sexually attracted to someone. After that initial determination, it is what you say that gets you anywhere. If I've had to ask you ten times to take the trash out or you don't listen when I'm talking to you, it doesn't matter how well you can pinch, twist, lick or pluck....it's not going down!
ReplyDeleteHey this comment is from Keisha.
ReplyDeleteI know that this may come off as what we consider to be old fashion, but it seems to me that when you are intimate with someone, the question of whether i should do this or i should do that comes much easier with familiarity. Of course you don't know what I want or what I like and don't like if we are doing a hit and miss. When speaking with my female and male friends, it seems that one thing holds true: it is so great when the sexual encounter is with someone that you actually know -- I don't mean someone whose name you were told, but someone that you might have actually had an intelligent conversation with. When in a relationship, a good relationship, one knows what his or her partner is in the mood for: tonight it might not take foreplay-- you and I have been cooking a nice meal together, we have been talking over our day and we just can't want to love each other; foreplay not needed because mind and body have connected Then again, it could be that foreplay and the ultimate release is just what is needed to unwind and make for a lovely evening. Either way, being in-tune with someone makes asking the question of whether we do or don't much less traumatic. Just an "old fashion" observation....
Hey this is Charlotte
ReplyDeleteIts about the desire to want to be a pleaser. Some males in some situations only want to "arrive" at their destination with sex. They dont care if the female gets anything out of it, some males think the female is just happy to be in their company. You have to pay attention in order to be paid attention too. Intimacy is just as much mental as it is physical. Foreplay is like the main artery in that setting and it doesn't just begin in the bedroom. There are times that foreplay kind be viewed as mandatory, for example: If especially if the man cannot "maintain" his "position" during the "connection". If he's a minute man and has made a decision to NOT to address it with a physician, then he has to be open to making up for the shortcoming in other areas. If you are a man that unfortunately, has a tool that only last for about 5 mins, then THIS MAN MUST utilize Foreplay and Afterplay, to get the "invite" back. Again I say..making up for the shortcoming. Another example: If you are a man thats working with coffee stirrer, please know that you cannot "evade" the foreplay police. You dont have the right to treat foreplay as an option in this case!
I do believe most men have a ball park figure on how they perform, all based on the females reaction to it. Men and women evolve into their own little niche when engaged in sex and both men and women gauge their performances. There are some men who are not as disconnected to the anatomy of a female, in the sense that they will research the female body and how it works and what it reacts to and then customize it for their partner. This pocket of men understand that it because they "ohhhhh...she's moaning...woo-ohhhhhh she's groanin UM HANDLIN MY BIT-NISS NOW!" Then 5 WHOLE MINUTES later...he's panting and holding his chest and the woman is laying there with MAJOR ATTITUDE thinkin "I TOOK MY CLOTHES OFF FOR THIS SHYT!?" So if a brother knows he's inadequate in these areas, be it minute man sydrome or mini me syndrome, then FOREPLAY is a must have. And in some cases he has to follow it up with some afterplay. Just something to keep that "look" off of the females face.
Foreplay in my opinion is one of the most important parts of the sex family. The conversation the eye contact the sex lingo the unexpected kisses in the areas near the spot u know all that to me is much needed. In some cases I mean if both parties get that look like hey it needs to jump off now….. ok I understand. In my opinion most guys aren’t really concerned about the foreplay because they think the Pole will handle it all. Now you have some women who have never been exposed to the foreplay game so they don’t require it. On the other hand women who have and had bad experiences are like look kill all the extras come and break me off. I think it needs to be talked about in conversations between two ADULTS who know what their bodies need to be satisfied. I feel everyone should know their bodies well enough to know what they need to be satisfied sexually. You can’t expect for someone to read your mind, body reactions yes mind reading no. It’s a must for me I enjoy pleasing my wife on all levels. Your main focus should be to please you partner, if everyone has this mindset then everyone will be satisfied.
ReplyDeleteI am exhaling just thinking about it. LOL! Okay class, Professor LL is right. You and your partner must know each others boby, needs wants, spots, fantasies, desires, all that. If this is the case, then a quickie for me and my husband may be all we need because I can't sleep and all we need to do is roll over. That's my medicine. Then after a long day, with work, kids, etc, bring on the foreplay. Hell, I'll catch him taking a hot shower and run upon his ass! Didn't here me coming did u? Maybe its late one weekend night, hell I don't even smoke but I'll get a black and smoke with him, drink something hard and we'll play hard all night. No foreplay needed. Gotta know your mate! If not, you might as well take your ass home and take your ball with you. I'll find someone else to play with. Bet they got some BALLS!
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, foreplay is a natural act before the sexual encounter. You have to be careful, however, not to put too much empahsis on the foreplay because sometimes you can lack when you get to the sexual escapade. I think women require more foreplay than guys because it helps us get in the mood to have a good time with our mate. I do believe also that men need to have some foreplay sometimes to feel that we care about their needs sexually. Most men will never admit it, but they have desires to feel loved and aroused from foreplay just like women. My husband loves when I initiate foreplay. I know what turns him on and I am not afraid to show him.
ReplyDeleteForeplay is awesome when you are with someone who is familiar with your body and knows what you like(ie, husband, significant other). There are sometimes, however, when the mood is so right that you don't have time for all the in between, just get to the main course! And thats fine too. You have to know your partner and gauge the moods to know when to have some foreplay or not.
Foreplay is a must!!! For me, its not just physical..It's mental too…I want U to stimulate my body & my mind.
ReplyDeleteIn addition to the fellatio & cunnilingus, Foreplay to me is that call while Im drivin on the freeway & he tells me he’s on his way to the gym…. Foreplay is that eye contact, the intensity, and yes its that kiss on the neck. For me Foreplay goes as far as me gettin that text in the Mid Day tellin me he horny…..or calling me to let me listen to the mornings sex-escapade on his cell phone….Yeh, I’ma freak like that!!!!
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I hear you Cali! You kinda bad huh!
ReplyDeleteATTENTION MEN: foreplay is mental and starts from the first word spoken. I can't say it any better than cali on the several ways to continue foreplay.
ReplyDeleteright on cali!!!