Wednesday, July 1, 2009
"Double Dutch"
I was listening to Mike Baisden yesterday while driving home. His topic of discussion was, can a person be in love with two people or love to people and if your not married why do you lie about dating other people? I was a shocked at the amount of people that called in saying that they were in love with two people, most shocking is that the majority were women. They spoke about how they had two and three men and how they pay her bills and give her money. I mean is it possible to love to people or can you love one and be in love with the other?
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From Debra
ReplyDeleteI think that it is possible to love two people, however when you start to factor in that they take care of you by buying you things and paying your bills, its no longer called love. I believe that that's the reason many people are in bad relationships and hung up over a certain individual and always uses, "because I love em" Love is not a feeling and he definitely can't be measured by the monetary things that are you given to you. So in closing I think you can be in love with two people, but now a days the word is taken so lightly you never know if its really love or not. Signing out: Been in love with two people.
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I also believe that you can love to people but definetly not be "in love" with two people. I agree with Debra most people do not even know the true meaning of love and being in love. And let's not mention how to love...now I agree that if you are not married, you shouldn't have to lie about dating other people if you do not have that understanding that you will not date other people. Just be honest and put it all out. Man just enjoy life especially if you are single but be safe at the same time!!!
ReplyDeleteFrom Shaquana.
ReplyDeleteI don't agree that you can be in love with two people. I think you can LOVE two people, but I don't think you can be "in love" with more than one person. When I'm in love, I'm all in. Period. When I was in love, it was like no other men existed. No matter what someone else's man did or had, it couldn't top what I had. He was the best everything to me because I was in love with him & he was my everything. I think if you're in love with one person, TRULY in love, there isn't room to be in love with another person. I think people throw the word around like it's nothing these days. If a man makes you have butterflies you think you're in love. If he says nice things, plays with your kids, spends time with you, etc. THINGS don't equal being in love. ACTIONS don't equal being in love. Love is something you have in your heart & your spirit & you can't attach "things" to it. You know, people say, "I know he loves me because he did this..". & that may be true. I think you can love different things about different people, but I don't think you can be in love with more than one person. Because if you made it around to falling in love with the second person, you were never in love with the first one.
See, when u start talking about the things these people do for you, I'm about to put u in a whole other category. Some of these women are acting like they are "Jumping Rope For life!" with all these damn sponsors and $@^&. Make me mad. IN LOVE with One man,yes. Not with two or more. IN LOVE means better or worse, sickness and health, richer or POORER! The same should be reciprocated from your mate as well whether you are married or not. Furthermore, for everyone in the dating scene, be honest. If you are looking to start a serious relationship then make it known, if you are not make that known too and enjoy life!You will be surprised about the number of people who may actually like the same things you do.
ReplyDeleteI think Shaquana put it best. I do think you can love two people but not be in love with two people. With that said, I do think (like Shaquana said) if you make it to falling in love with the 2nd person, you've most likely fallen out of love with the first. Now, many people think well I have person #1 and now I'm in love with person #2 so the first situation is over..not true. I think the "in love" stage is very much what you experience in the beginning. Being in love is not about for richer/poorer in sickness/health and anyone who thinks so probably has never been married. The difference is that true love also means true faith. Having true love for a person means having faith that you will always be together through it all, so even if you pass the "in love" phase you know what they mean to you is not worth a few moments of "butterflies" with someone else. It's when you loose that faith that a #2 can come in.
ReplyDeleteI am married and being IN LOVE with him means accepting all things, behaviors, likenesses, habits, attitudes, etc. If I LOVE someone, I can easily let that person go, no attachments. Thru thick and thin I am in love with my husband. I am in love with my children. I am in love with GOD. Nelly, I think you have it backwards. You begin to like a person, you love that person and then you fall in love accepting all that person has to offer.
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