Tuesday, July 28, 2009
"Long Showers"
Hey people got a pretty serious situation. One of our followers is a single mother of a 15 year son. He is a good kid very active in sports and gives her no problems. Well as of late he has been taking longer showers and she has found some adult movies in his room. She doesn’t know how to approach the situation and when she does, she isn’t really sure what to say. So the question is how should she handle her son in this situation?
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Okay I must say that I have been here before(meaning the long showers). First off you are not going to be able to stop it, it’s natural just about every man who is willing to tell the truth has had a long shower around that age. It is the time when a young man finds out what it feels like to be relieved of stress. He finds out that this thing was made for more than just peeing. The movies are his way of finding out how to perform sexually and see how a women is going to react. He has probably had conversation with his friends about having sex. More than likely he has lied about it and he is wanting to make sure that when the time comes he doesn’t look like a first timer. It’s going to take time and it will wear off. Don’t say anything to him about the showers, maybe the movies maybe. If you say something you might have him shut down on you, it’s not a good feeling to have your mom ask you about your long showers. Just be happy with him doing that at least you know he likes women and that’s a blessing in itself. It’s a catch 22, just let it take its course. And continue to tell him about protection.
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ReplyDeleteI have a 16yr old son and I have always been candid with him in regards to sex education, understanding his body and also the female's body. I tried to speak with him about this topic before the school gave their version of it to him because they are exposed to it at school, with the parents consent, of course. When my son was 8yrs old I went to Books-a-Million and purchased a book written for kids to explain the male/female body and it explained conception and even the aging process. So, for me, starting early with this topic and using the book was a great icebreaker. It keeps the lines of communication open when you have to have the refresher courses on the topic and the child is not as uncomfortable with discussing this even with their mother. I discuss the topics of sex, conception, protection and the interesting interaction with females that he will continue to have throughout his life often with my son often. I've explained to him that he is going to have desires and urges. I cant explain it to him from a male perspective however, I did let him know that its natural, and to not be ashamed if he is curious about his body or the female body. Often times kids learn about sex, sexuality, lust, and desires by communicating with their ill-equipped peers or watching tv. But if we as parents, proactively let the children know from a high level overview, how their sex organs work and how its staged out, then they will make better decisions on how they want to handle themselves when and if peer pressure rears its ugly head. And sometimes the parents need to be educated so they can properly teach their children about their bodies as well.
When it comes to boys findind ou about sex and girls, you can only give your input about STD's and babbies. Just like being too strict on a girl can cause her to go wild as soon as she is let free, it is the same for a boy but worse.... Just the curiosity of seeing what all his friends are talking about will make him try it. As far as the adult movies, Every man has a personal stash, and most women have thier stash or toys... The only thing you can say to him is if he chooses to do something, make sure he protects himself.
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